(Closed) Brides who let their BM's (sort of) pick their dress?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I won’t be much help because I only have my MOH and my brother and clearly that means only one BM dress… However, I think it’s important to let them have a say. You can put specifications on it, and they can do the rest. These people are special to you or you wouldn’t have them standing beside you on your big day! I lucked out, my MOH is also getting married next year (and I’m her MOH) so she is very understanding of the entire wedding planning adventure! I want a certain color and length and i obviously don’t want it to clash with my dress, but other than that I want to cater to her! She’s up there for a reason and I want her to feel comfortable too. I have to say, I also love Bill Levkoff!! Nice choice 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

My girls selected their own dresses based of the same parameters that you’ve given your girls (Alfred Angelo, burnt orange, satin, floor length). They each bought the dress from the same salon that I purchased my dress from because it gave them 10% off theirs. I only had 3 bridesmaids but there were no issues what so ever. I don’t know if it would have been any different had I had more bridesmaids but I kind of doubt it. 

Personally, I always think its better to let the girls choose their own dresses than select them yourself. They’ll be happier purchasing and wearing something that they like and are comfortable in than a dress that’s been chosen for them.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What I did was, I got all of my BM’s & my MOH together and we went to David’s Bridal to pick a dress for them. Initially, I just set the color & length of dress I wanted, and let them pick different styles to try on. I had intentions of them getting different dresses, I figured there was no way they would agree on one dress. They ended up liking the same dress, so that’s how that worked out! If you were going to have them go to different salons, I would make sure that you set the color/length/material you want.. But then again, the colors may vary. I got mine all at the same place just to keep that from happening. Unless you want them to do different shades of blue, or something like that.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I did this with J. Crew dresses. I picked a color & fabric, and told the girls to pick any one of those. They each ended up with different dresses. It wasn’t a nightmare at all. It was pretty simple actually. But they all ordered their dresses from the J Crew website rather than ordering them in a store. They each picked their dresses within about 48 hours, and two of them ordered immediately. The other waited about two weeks because she was worrying about what size she needed.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I bought convertible dresses for my BMs.  They decided how they wanted to wear them and what to wear it with. =)

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My BMs had a say in the dresses….but they wouldn’t actually say which one they wanted. It was so hard for me to choose! And in the end I just picked the cheaper one because even though I loved the other one, it was over $300 and I couldn’t make them spend that much!

Post # 9
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5557 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I did this at DB, Apple and floor length. They all picked which they liked and flattered them best and it worked great. I think that is specific enough to still go together without matching. And you could go all together but trying to coordinate that many girls schedules seems like a nightmare I wouldnt want. So I would let them know your specifics and the latest date they can order by to still get them in time and let them choose.

Post # 10
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1096 posts
Bumble bee

I did this same thing with Amsale gowns in taupe chiffon. There was over 18 styles at this boutique near my house, so we just wen’t there. Its nice for everyone to buy from the same place, that way you can sometimes negotiate a discount. We all went together and they chose their own styles, it worked out great. Out of 6 girls, there are only 2 with the same dress –but its’s a very standard style so it doesnt really matter.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m doing the same thing…. Alfred Angelo, chiffon, Violet, cocktail or knee length.  I originally had 4 BMs, but I’m down to 2 now because 2 aren’t going to be able to make it to my destination wedding.  But I don’t think there would have been issues.  They were not going to be ordering from the same store because they all live in different states.  I really don’t think there’s much of a difference in “dye lots” as some ppl try to make it out to be.  I don’t know how true it is, but I’ve heard that sales reps use that excuse to get all the sales at their store.

Post # 12
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I did this with my ladies: Alfred Angelo, eggplant, cocktail length. I let them pick any fabric, I didn’t care about that part. They had a bunch to choose from and all 6 of them picked different dresses so it looked awesome! Luckilly, we found a day that all of us could go to the same store and they all ordered them then so I didn’t need to worry about someone ordering too late. It worked out perfectly fo us!

Post # 13
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

i am a very laid back person, so i let my BM fully pick out the dress, whatever length or style, and it worked out very well. they picked a dress out fairly quickly

Post # 14
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

i am a very laid back person, so i let my BM fully pick out the dress, whatever length or style, and it worked out very well. they picked a dress out fairly quickly

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have 5 BMs. 

Did you still stick with one salon to order from or did you let your ‘maids go out on their own and find/order their dresses wherever they choose? How did it work out?

Yes, we’re ordering from the same vendor (probably Dressilyme). My original plan was to give them a color and length and just let them go…however, after a million questions and pleas for more direction, I took control (much to their relief, haha). My girls live all over and are at different stages in life and all wear different sizes. What I ended up doing was choosing a color, fabric, and length and letting them choose whatever style they wanted that fell within those parameters. It’s working out nicely, actually.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My girls all picked their own gowns using the same guidelines as you gave (amsale, chiffon, long, and same color). We all went shopping for the dresses (3 went to the salon where we got all of the dresses with me, 1 went on her own to that salon, 1 picked a dress from the website and sent me her measurements because she is in a different country and couldnt actually go to a salon,  and my MOH and I went shopping at a different salon but it was just to try on the dresses – we ordered them all from the same place). One reason we ordered from the same place is that they gave all the girls a 15% discount for purchasing there. And then they just shipped them to the girls who were out of town. Plus, you want all the gowns to come from the same dye lot so there won’t be variations in color. I always knew I wanted mismatched styles, plus if I was asking my girls to spend 300.00 on a gown, I wanted them to pick something they loved and felt good in. 

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