Post # 1
My dress is strapless and I have a very large set of wings that I plan on finishing this year, that covers my entire back!
My mom is very traditional/conservative and she wants me to look into having it covered with special effects make up for the Big Day!
I need advice!
This isnt my only tattoo and I feel like its apart of who I am! And if I cover it I feel like it will be more noticeably “missing” since so many people know me with it now!
In no way am I ashamed of my random tattoos, I love them all and they remind me of certains periods of time!
What Would You Do Bees?!
Respect Momma’s Wishes? Or find an alternative!
For now Im looking into getting a coat that I saw by Justin Alexander that truly inspired me! Im also talking to a few Etsy people to see if they can do a “Look Alike” or suggest something another idea!
Post # 3
What about wearing a bolero or shrug for the ceremony and then taking it off for the reception. So that your back is covered when it is primarily facing your guests, but you aren’t covering your tattoo with makeup. Then at the reception you can take the bolero off and let the tattoo show.
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: definitely checking those out on Etsy as well! Thank you! =)
Post # 5
I have a pretty large piece on my back as well that my grandparents and stepdad don’t know about, but my mom and everyone else knows about. I haven’t gone to try on dresses yet, but the dress that is my first choice would probably show it, so I plan to just wear my hair down and have a veil.
I like the idea of a shrug, jacket or bolero though too. That way, like Kat said, you can wear it during the ceremony and take it off for the reception, if you want.
Post # 6
I also agree with something to cover it for the ceremony and showing it at the reception.
Post # 7
I’ve got a back and wrist tattoo and if anyone told me to cover it up I’d tell them to shove it! Is she paying for your dress? If not, then she has NO SAY. I love a bride with tattoos, its you and you shouldn’t have to cover up who you are. If you want to get a bolero or a jacket thats cool, but don’t force yourself to if you want to show it off!
Post # 8
I agree with @arenyth ; I have plenty and plenty of tattos (big, small, random) and my mother and “that” side of the family is really against the whole idea. (I partially believe because my mother got one small tattoo on her ankle years ago, and the video they have of her is hysterical. Talk about crying from pain!) lol I think she’s just upset and she can’t get more because she can’t tolerate it. hehehe
Anyhoo! She has done nothing but complain about my tattoos showing during the wedding, and how it isn’t “classy”, etc. Fact is, times have changed. I know PLENTY of classy people who have tattoos … classy isn’t about the look, its about the behavior. IMO
So, I would show it. Be proud of it. And expect everyone else to do the same. Fact is, its one of the things that FI loves about me. So, why would I cover it up on “our” day? 🙂
Post # 9
It’s your body. If they don’t like it, tell them to keep their heads down the whole day. Obviously….I’m biased.
Post # 10
THANKS BEES!!!! Loving the advice so far, but I am a little bias as well! haha!
Post # 11
It’s your day, you and your fiance should agree on what you should do for your wedding. I am a tattoo’d bride as well and I discussed it with my fiance and he told me to not do anything because it is who I am and how he met me, but he DID tell me to do what ever I wanted and whatever makes me feel comfortable.
I want to cover them, but we are on a budget and my makeup artist does offer tattoo airbrushing, if I can budget it then I will cover them up, if I can’t then I wont, but I’m ok with either or and fortunately for me my parents are happy with whatever I choose.
Go with what YOU want to do. It’s YOUR day and if your fiance loves you with tattoos and all which you know he does than who cares what others think. 🙂
Here is a pic of me with the tattoos, honestly, I don’t even notice them anymore. lol
Good Luck and Congratulations!!!
Post # 12
I have a piece on my back and my dress framed it perfectly. Nobody seemed to care except for my crappy photographer that didn’t edit any pics but wanted to airbrush my tatoo.
Post # 13
@CupCakeMeg: First, I love that coat.
As for your tattoo problem, my answer would depend on your dress. I think it would look odd for only part of the tattoo to show and I’m old fashioned enough to think that tattoos aren’t particularly “bridal” (assuming you’re having a traditional wedding). Anyway, if the tats look okay with the dress, I say eh. If not, cover them. Oh, and depending on how much you want to please your Mom…
Post # 14
WOW i love that coat! it’s breathtaking. Maybe you could cover up for the ceremony and unveil for the reception, if it means you get that coat LOL. Maybe you could wear a little sweater, a compromise so you can stress about all the other things about your wedding.
Post # 15
My mum hates my tattoos but like you they all mean something to me. I’m going with wearing a bolero/shrug for the ceremony then taking it off at the reception.
Post # 16
@muckmoo1: Hi! To be totally honest I saw one of your posts and was like HEY! I’ve been meaning to ask the fellow bees their thoughts!!! THANK YOU for all your words and advice
I love the coat too ladies! My mom surprisingly loved the coat and asked if I would get it in RED or BLACK!? Hehe! for the coat color, since our color scheme is charcoal/red/ivory with glittered/blingy accents!
Mom is definitely pushing for it to be covered but I cant wait to share this thread wit her! I think she is growing more fond of the coat idea and letting me just be ME on my wedding day!
THANK YOU AGAIN BEES! My dress comes in the end of this month and I’ll make sure to update with a pic of the tattoo and my dress!