Post # 1
I was wondering if there are more brides here with visible scars. I was in an accident 6 years ago (today) and it left me with burn scars all over my arms, neck and shoulders. Thankfully my life has gone on since then and I am marrying an amazing man this September.
I was convinced I would pick out a dress with sleeves or something, but my wow moment came with a dress without them. I am normally not that self consious about it, but am a little nervous about them being so visible in my dress (although I adore it and am not having second thoughts or anything). I am also contemplaiting adding some camouflage to my scars, to even out the color a little.
If there are brides in a somewhat similar situation I would love to read about your experiences.
A picture of me in my dress
PS Excuse my English, it is not my first language.
This topic was modified 3 years, 3 months ago by WildStone.
Post # 2
First of all, you look beautiful and shouldn’t need to worry! Your scars are part of who you are! If you are concerned, talk to a professional make up artist and see what she reccommends. My skin gets weird red spots in the summer (It’s an actual disease brought on by heat but it treatable but hard to keep up with) I get really embarrassed by them and want to cover up.
We were laying in bed last night. He noticed my spots were coming back on my lower back, which means I need to go to the doctor as they will be all over me soon. I was bitching about how much I hated my skin and he just looked at me and said “I think they are cool. Nobody else has skin like that. It’s like I’m dating a sexy leapard.” I’m sure your FI feels a similar way
Post # 3
You look beautiful in that dress! I don’t have any experience with your situation, but you could always get a bolero or wrap if it’s really going to bother you. You could also talk to your make-up artist about evening out the color of your skin, but I don’t think it’s as noticable as you think. No matter what you decide on doing, I’m sure you’re going to be gorgeous on your wedding day 🙂
Post # 4
I have a couple of large scars in my face that I’ve had since I was a teenager. There have definitely been times in my life when they’ve bothered me a lot, but as the years have past by I think of them less and less. From your post it sounds like you’ve reach a similar point in your healing process, when you no longer feel defined by your scars. For my wedding day, I applied my own makeup as I feel most comfortable doing that myself and that way I knew I would get the cover I wanted. As for you, I guess it would be trickier with your arms – you don’t want makeup to smudge all over that pretty dress! So if I were you I think I would just carry them with pride, knowing and showing that you’re a fighter.
Post # 5
Haha your Fl rules, his comment made me laugh. And thank you for your encouraging words.
I am not worries about my Fl’s reaction. He also loves me and thinks I’m beautiful, when I walk around without make up in my pyama’s on a lazy Sunday. I think consulting a make up artist may be a good plan.
Post # 6
Mine isn’t that big, but i have a 6.5 inch scar across my neck. It’s not super red, but it is definitely visible and people notice.
Frankly, it’s part of who I am so i didn’t cover it. People who know me know I have it, and those who don’t know me will find out anyway.
You could always get a bolero or something like that, but i think that if you love your dress as is, then don’t worry about it and just wear it with confidence. The fact that you’d have the confidence to do that only makes you more beautiful 😉
ETA – i love that dress! So pretty!
Post # 7
Oh, you look stunning in the dress!
I don’t have any very visible scars (although my right hand does have quite a few from an accident when i was a child), but I think you should not be concerned too much about it because you look absolutely wonderful 🙂
Post # 8
Eocenia, you’ve given me some food for thought. Thank you.
Post # 9
The dress looks gorgeous on you! I have purchased one of these little chiffon boleros from Etsy, just to cover up my arms.
Post # 10
WildStone: You’re welcome! As I said in my previous post, my scars were a big concern of mine for years. However, I think part of that was that I got them during a more vulnerable time in my life, teenagers already have so many issues so large, easily distinguishable, scars doesn’t really help the self confidence. Since your scars are more recent, I hope you had an easier way to cope with them from scratch.
Oh – and just a little tip, click “Reply” on the posts you want to comment on. That way that bee will get a little notification that she has a message.
Post # 11
I have large facial scars. There just wasn’t anything I could do to change that. I used airbrush makeup but other than that, there was slight post editing to soften them yet not removing them entirely. It sucks to not have a beautiful flawless face like 99.9% of everybody else but what can I do? I just try to make the best out of what I got.
Post # 13
BeeG35: Thanks for your story. I think you have a great attitude about it. I am now a bit torn between rocking them or making the best of them by softening them with make up. Although I am a bit worried about stains in the dress. Normally I am pretty much okay with them. I am happy and healthy, but this is one of those times in my life that has made me more concious of them.
All your nice comments about the dress (and me in it) are greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Post # 14
WildStone: while I don’t think you need to cover them, if you wanted to even out your skin tone a bit you could always get a light spray tan. Just something light enough to still look like yourself but enough color to even out everything. I don’t have scars on my arms but they are very uneven with redness so I like to use a little self tanner to even them out.
Post # 15
First of all you look beautiful in your dress. it’s absolutely perfect on you. I really don’t think you need to cover your scars. as other people have said- they are part of who you are,and the experience you went through makes you the person you are today- the person your FI fell in love with.
I have a large surgical scar starting at my neck and going all the way down my back. I also have uneven shoulder blades because of that surgery, so I was really self concious about it when I tried on dresses. I tried on a lot of dresses with the full lace cover over the back, because I felt like I should cover it up. but ended up saying “screw it” and moving away from that idea. Although, I admit, I continued to steer clear of anything “keyhole”, because those felt like I was putting a big picture frame around it- haha. (even though I think those dresses are really pretty!)
On my wedding day I had my MUA put just a LITTLE concealer and powder on my back, to take down the redness, but it was definitly still visible, and i really didnt care. I still felt beautiful, and you will too! 🙂
Post # 16
WildStone: I actually first saw your dress in another thread and I didn’t even notice the scars! All I saw was a beautiful woman who looks absolutley stunning and beaming with happiness in that dress!
I don’t have any suggestions just wanted to share that I think you and that dress are beautiful!