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    charmedlife    May 22, 2010   South Texas

    I have a nagging fear that something bad might happen before our wedding. I'm paranoid about one of us being in a car wreck or walking into the middle of a crime...I'm constanly telling my fiance to be careful, especially when I know he'll be driving down to see me.

    I just found out today that my worst fear came true for another bride in my area. Her wedding was scheduled for the end of November, but instead she is attending her fiance's funeral this week. Her fiance was at his bachelor party this past weekend, and had a 4-wheeler accident. I can't imagine what that must feel like for her and their families. To think that you were about to have something so happy and joyous happen and now you aren't. As much as I'm looking forward to my wedding day, I'm looking forward to the days 10, 20, or 40 years from now that I'll spend with my fiance.

    I'll be keeping her, her fiance, and their families in my thoughts and prayers. I'm asking the hive to do so also.

    Give your fiance or significant other a kiss today & tell them how much you love them.

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    in our house, you are NOT allowed to leave the house without a kiss and telling eachother i love you

    my heart goes out to that poor woman - hopefully she has friends and family with her

     
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    texasmeredith      

    Wow.  This is so horrible.  I can't even imagine.  That bride is in my prayers now.

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    that's so sad :(  

    but, it's true.  We really only have today.  Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

    FI and I always leave and greet each other with a kiss.  It's important to me because one of these days, it will be our last kiss... and I don't want to ever regret not having that last one.  

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    I worry about these things all the time - my family has had our share of tragedy, and so it's hardwired into me to fear the worst. I feel for that bride, just like I feel for the fiance of that Yale student that was murdered the week before their wedding... it is always horrible to lose someone you love, but I think there is something about being so happy that makes us more attuned to what we stand to lose.

     
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    Brianalaura    August 14, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    A friend of mine died recently from a congenital heart defect that no one knew about.  Him and his wife had only been married 4 months.  It really makes you cherish those around you when it's pushed into your life like that.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    I fear this too, you are not alone!!  I feel like putting us into a bubble for th rest of our lives just to avoid having to think about it.  My grandpa died just 10 years after him and my grandma got married, with 5 kids under the age of 8. I can't imagine what she went thru.

    Just like the Annie Le story, makes me tear up just thinking about it

     
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    msjellyfish    September 5, 2010   Bay Area, California

    This gave me the chills. I worry about the same kind of stuff. It doesn't help having a FI in the military. *Shudders*

    @eloping: I like your rule. I might have to steal that.

     
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    LittleOctopus    October 10, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    Total worrywart here.  I think about that stuff too, and it literally reduces me to tears.  I spent 21 years trying to find my dear Mr., and it would be awful to lose him.  We're big kiss hello and goodbye people as well, and it always sets me a little more at ease.  It's a scary thought, but stay positive!  

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    my hubby cave dives with a rebreather, the diving community joke is its not if it will kill you but a matter of when.  being positive and having faith in his training, his common sense and his skills is what lets me let him go because you cant live your life in fear.  even phone calls during the day we always say i love you

     

     

     
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    SweetheartDealer    August 7, 2010   LA/ Wedding in Sonoma, CA

    Ahhh, this is so horrible. I worry about the same things.. My fiance is going on vacation next week with his family and I keep thinking "What if something happens?". It's hard because you don't want to be a worrywart but it's impossible to imagine life without my fiance. Don't want to, so this thread brings up the good point that we should spend every day being grateful for what we have :) Kiss your men and tell them you love them, actually do this with all of your family!! 

     
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    mismikado    May 29, 2010   Texas

    That is such an aweful thing to hear. My FI and I live 500 miles apart. He's in Dallas and I'm in So. TX too... not a day goes by that I don't worry that some tragic accident will happen to one of us. WHat if theirs a car accident, a hold up, something awful and unexpected and unpreventable. And then I wonder how long will it take before the other one finds out? How many hours will go by with that person just thinking everything is ok not realizing their entire world has already started to change?

     
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    MissDane    June 26, 2010  

    My little sister was actually good friends with the bride...when my mom told me about it I just wanted to give my FI a big hug and kiss.

    I also worry about the littlest things. When he is out late with clients for dinner I always worry about him getting home safely. We live in Sweden and he works in Denmark, which is a 30 min train ride away. If he is even slightly late I start to picture bad things happening on the train or outside the restaurant or bar where he has been (I've always thought I have an overactive imagination). Unfortunately racial tensions are high in this area (radical muslims vs everyone else) and I worry about that. It seems that every day I read something about a random attack on a non-muslim in various areas.

    And believe me...I am not racist or hold anything against other religions (the best man in our catholic wedding is muslimSmile) but unfortunately that is the threat that is present right now.

    I've also seen a lot through friends on facebook of fellow aquaintences going through heartbreak. I almost created a post about this alone...newlyweds losing someone soon after marriage or soon after childbirth. It really helps me put things in perspective and appreciate everything I have. I choose not to get bogged down in the little things in life or with our wedding.

     
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    lampshade127    March 27   Houston

    My sister told me about that yesterday---I guess she knew the bride in college. Her and her fiance and their families have been in our prayers.

    Another reminder to enjoy every minute and make sure the ones that you love know it.

     
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    KT_Williams    July 3, 2010   Washington

    That is so sad! OMG! That poor women!

    Its something I fear as well! My FI and I both are in the Military and I hate it when he is gone, even though I think nothing of it when I am gone. Something really bad recently happened where my FI is, lets just say we both are in the Aviation community and we fly, and one of the planes was messed with. It was caught before it took off, but none the less I have been so on edge with him still being out there and the person who did it not being caught yet! I cant wait for him to come home. Not long after he comes home I will be getting out of the military myself which will make things easier on us, but I know I will ALWAYS worry about him and HATE it when he is gone.

    My heart goes out to that bride who lost her FI as well as the family and friends! So, so sad! : (

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    This is so sad. I remember when I was living in Philly and some kids jumped and killed some random guy on the subway platform. He was just an innocent guy who was in the wrong place at the wrong time. And he was newly engaged. It is very heartbreaking.

    Show your FI some love today!

     
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    nurseamanda    July 17, 2010   Tx

    Hi charmed life, what part of texas are you in?  my fiance's friend who was to be married in november also just passed away, we're in south texas.  its such a sad story, unfortunately its things like this that kinda of "scare" us and make us remember how precious each day really is.

    *if you love someone, tell them everyday*

     
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    mdarrah    4/4/09   Los Angeles, CA

    I'm a military wife so this is a constant nagging fear.  The only upside is that I think we'll (hopefully) never take each other for granted.

     

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