- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Well ladies, I need some honest advice.
I decided early on that we really only needed 2 party members each. I get two of my girls, FH gets two of his guys. The reason I did this was because a. FH has two amazing friends and a lot of really really good ones. b. I have 3 really amazing friends but 1 of them lived in Ottawa and I didn’t know if she’d even be able to make it to the wedding let alone be a part of it.
She came for a visit about a year ago and I bawled my eyes out to her about how sad I was and sorry I was for not making her a part of the wedding party. She was totally fine with it.
Fast forward to October, she had to move back home because of personal reasons, which is very happy for her family and me. Although I never invited her to be a bridesmaid because well, we had already made plans.
My FH and I were talking last night and he mentioned (some of the first input he’s had as of yet) that “is that all I get? Just two?” I was a little shocked because he is more interested in being married than having a wedding. So, I said “that’s all I planned for, but who else would you have” and he named one of his other friends who’s been around since they were like 5.
My question is, can we add another bridesmaid & groomsmen? even after we already asked the other party members a LONG time ago? Should I send them all an email asking them if they are ok with me adding another one?
I’m totally just contemplating this at the moment, trying to get some alternate ideas (which is why I came here, to all of you).
Would it seem terrible to go to her now and ask her?