(Closed) Bridesmaid and her sis is the MOH..money and spending issues

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow, that is a tough situation! I just want to make sure I’m understanding this correctly…are you paying for the cake for a party, or the actual wedding cake? And her headpiece/veil?

It does seem a little excessive to me. How many girls in the bridal party are siblings/related to the bride? I like your idea–could you pull the MOH aside and say that while you want to contribute to all the planning, funds are a little tight. Maybe gently suggest that something could be a present from her sisters? Or, volunteer that if you can’t contribute as much financially, that you’ll run some errands or do some things that involve contributing time.

Good luck with this!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  It is completely understandable! I know that people say that if you’re a bridesmaid, you are willing to spend the money, but there is a line! I’m glad the bride intercepted. She sounds like she has a realistic view on things! Being a bridesmaid can be very expensive. I was a bridesmaid for two different friends, and the weddings were a month apart from each other. I was broke, LoL πŸ™‚  Luckily, they were all easy to work with!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

200$ per person is a bit excessive, esp if the mom is paying for the bridal party. My BM’s aren’t paying for any of the bachelorette weekend, unless they have some tricks up their sleeves.. but we’re going to Vegas so that would be extremelly excessive if I expected them to. Have you told the MOH how you feel? Tell her that its just a bit too expensive for you and you’d rather make it special in ways that aren’t expensive, maybe make her a really heartfelt gift or something

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that is excessive, they are sisters of the bride and if they want to go the xtra mile for her thats fine but it shouldnt be your responsibility financially.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i agree with the rest of the ladies. They are putting you in a difficult possition just because they want to make this so special for their sister, but like u said they should do it on their own. Feel free to tell her that you have financial issues and that you cant afford that that u want to save some money to get her a nice gift that she will remember. iTS really tuff in this economy to come up with 200 bucks plus a gift. I feel you i was in that situation as well,

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