Post # 1
I’m having some trouble figuring out how much I should be spending on my bridesmaids gifts. We don’t have a lot of money left in our budget for very expensive gifts, but I want my bridesmaids to know that I appreciate them.
I have 2 co-maids of honor and 3 other bridesmaids and they are each paying for their dresses ($110-$130), alterations ($50), shoes ($50), and travel and hotel expenses since its an out of town wedding (they have to drive 5-7 hours and stay at a hotel 2 nights).
I was thinking of buying them each a jewelry set to wear to the wedding (approx $30), and pay for either their hairstyling or mani/pedi (approx $50). Do I need to add something else that’s not related to the wedding? I feel like $80 is already quite a bit for me, but considering how much they’re spending maybe it’s not enough. Could I just add something else to the maid of honors’ gifts, or will that seem rude when they all open their presents together? My maids of honor are my sisters and they threw me a great bachelorette party, so I feel like I should spend a bit more on them.
Also how much should we spend on other attendant’s gifts. We have 2 junior bridesmaids, 2 flower girls, 5 groomsmen, 2 junior groomsmen and a ring bearer. Would $30 each be appropriate for the children’s gifts? Should my fiance spend the same amount on his groomsmen that I did on my bridesmaids? I feel like he could get away with spending a bit less (maybe $50-$70), since his groomsmen only had to pay for their tux rental and they dont have as far to come for the wedding (1-4 hour drive).
What do you girls think?
Post # 3
I think you should consider giving them something that isn’t required for your wedding. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it should be something that they will enjoy and have as a momento of the day (and the time spent supporting you during the planning).
Post # 4
I bought my girls their dresses and will be giving 1 personalized stationary, and the other a spa gift card. I’m spending about $200 on each. I’m having a destination wedding, so I wanted to spend a little bit more on their gifts.
Post # 5
I would try to give them something that is not “for” the wedding. That way it shows that you appreciate them and want to give them a gift, rather than something they “need” for your wedding.
Post # 6
Hez211 I was wondering where you bought the clutches for your bridesmaids. It is sooo beautiful.
Post # 8
I would make sure that I got them jewerely that they can use again.
Try searching for stuff on Etsy. I bought so much stuff on that site for my wedding! One unique thing I did for my Bridesmaid or Best Man was to get them a little charm to attach to their bouquets from AristoCrafty. They weren’t that expensive
Post # 9
my girls are paying for most of their stuff too, however i made my girls a tote bag (the doily one floating around), got them flip flops with swarovski crystals (for the reception), bought them a jewelry roll, buying them jewelry, and i bought them a cute door hanger (one side says something similar to “welcome” and the other side says “do not disturb. we’re relaxing from ___’s wedding”).
four our guys, we got them tshirt tuxedos (we thought it’d be funny), paracord bracelets, and i’m not sure what else we’re getting them.
for the flower girl/ring bearer, i plan on getting them a couple toys and some goodies from the dollar store (coloring books, crayons, stickers, etc) because they’re only 3 years old.
we have ushers and house party people, but i’m not sure what we’re getting them just yet. hope this helps!