Bridesmaid asked if it was ok for her to dye her hair pink

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you care if one of your bridesmaids had pink hair in your wedding?
    I would ask them not to dye it : (15 votes)
    15 %
    I wouldn't like it, but I wouldn't tell them not to dye it : (38 votes)
    37 %
    It wouldn't bother me at all : (49 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    Some brides do.  I’m on the same wavelength as you though.  I wouldn’t tell mine how to do – or what they can/cant do – with their hair and makeup. 

    Post # 3
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    3165 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    MechEBee:  same happened to me– my BM asked me if she could put pink in her bangs– I said go for it! It’s her hair and I don’t mind!

    Post # 4
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    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    MechEBee:  Ha, when I saw the title of this thread I was totally expecting a Bridezilla “how dare she ruin my photos” rant! Go you for caring about your friend and not being superficial! It’s nice of her to check though. If you had said no, would she have waited until after your wedding?

    Post # 5
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    692 posts
    Busy bee

    Yes, some brides do think they have a right to dictate how their wedding party looks. It’s over the top. 

    Post # 7
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    90 posts
    Worker bee

    When my cousin was engaged, his FI asked his sister and me to be bridesmaids. Of course we accepted! Planning didn’t go well, and I had to back out because the wedding was only a few months away, they didn’t have a venue picked, no exact date (other than may 20-something…literally the date they gave us), and they were a 5 hr plane ride away-I told them I needed a minimum of 4 months notice to purchase plane tickets). After I backed out, the bride told my cousin that she wanted BLOND bridesmaids, and to bleach her hair. Umm…the bride is olive skinned with jet black hair, and my cousin (along with all our family) is pale and brunette. Had I not backed out, she would have also requested this of me. Luckily, they just went to the courthouse. We were all pretty floored by her idiot request.

    Post # 8
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    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    MechEBee:  Hah! I was asked 2 weeks ago by a bridesmaid if she could chop her hair off.  uh, YES.  I laughed.  I didn’t care how the girls wanted their hair done, but I’m paying for it.  So I only said, “You can do whatever you’d like.  It’s your hair!  Just let me know if you cut it so short that you’d prefer to style it yourself that day so that I can cancel your hair appointment.”  I actually had a brief inner moment of “if she chops her hair off, it’ll save me $65….”  hahahaha

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    LOL I would have laughed and been like, if you want to have pink hair, that’s your deal! But, at least she seems super considerate, a lot of people go do weird things pre wedding without caring about the effect it will have on the wedding or how the bride will feel about it.

    Post # 10
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    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My friend dyes her hair different colors all the time. Asking her to be my bridesmaid, I expected that she’d do it, and she did, purple underneath and bleached out almost white on top. She looked awesome. I would never have asked her not to do it, it’s just part of who she is and that’s why I love her.

    Post # 12
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    8425 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    MechEBee:  Some brides care about all kinds of weird things, but I’d say that most normal brides pick their friends based on friendships, not hair color lol.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think she’s just being super respectful of you. I wouldn’t look at it like, “WOW, brides are like this!?” Some, maybe, but I would guess that your friend wants you to be happy, so she wanted to make sure you didn’t mind. I had a bridesmaid do the same thing for me – I told her to dye her hair however she wanted! She looks great no matter what. 

    Post # 15
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    as someone who has pink (and purple and turquoise) hair, i wouldn’t care.

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