Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids (we’ve known each other for 17-years) pulled something bizarre! When I asked her to be one of my bridesmaid, she was happy, but mellow, but perked up with excitement when she asked,
“Can [insert her FI’s name] be a part of the wedding party? How about as one of [insert my FI’s name] groomsmen!”
I was floored. I politely said no, that FI has already picked out his two groomsmen (plus, we’re in no way close friends with him). She then took this to mean that her FI wasn’t invited. We had planned to invite him with her on the same invitation, so that was never an issue, and I told her this, but she was still disappointed.
I just didn’t know whether to be shocked or to laugh.
Post # 3
@BetterSherm: Believe me laff it off. You will need a lot of humor as your planning continues.
CONGRATS! On your engagement and upcoming wedding.
Post # 4
That’s so strange! I would never think to ask that!
Post # 5
That was a crazy request! I would never assume anyone would want my FI in their bridal party unless they were siblings or BFF’s of his.
Post # 6
Definitely a strange request. Laugh it off and move on!
Post # 7
Yeah, how tacky of her. Just no.
Post # 8
@BetterSherm: whoaaa that BM is SUPER selfish! Isn’t she planning her own wedding and THEREFORE shouldn’t she already know a little bridal party etiquette?
Very silly/tacky/unreal request… she will/should feel silly when she thinks about it after.
Don’t worry bout it! She should know your bridal party really has no place for him…
Congrats & good luck!!!
Post # 9
Ha! It’s funny because just the other day I was looking through a friend’s wedding album, and she was pointing out that one of her BMs was only in the wedding party because she was engaged to the best man and he had asked for her to be in the WP … they later broke up, and now my friend has all these pictures with some random girl she doesn’t know or like with all her lifelong BFFs in her wedding party. Yikes. She should have taken a lesson from you and JUST SAID NO!
Who would even WANT to be in a wedding party if you’re not close with the bride or groom? That’s so weird.