- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
So there are 2 weeks til my wedding. I may be freaking out b/c of that reason alone but I cant help but get upset about this…i am having my two younger sisters as BMs. i told them to find shoes they like and let me know. They are each wearing different dresses, (both chocolate brown knee length, casual BM dresses) and one is 23 and the other is 14. I wanted everything to be age appropriate and comfortable for them to wear for the entire day. My 23 y/o sister found shoes (3 inch stacked wooden heal, full leather peep toe) and with the younger one bought them without me seeing them or okaying them first.
I dont want them to wear hoochie heals that are full leather for my outdoor spring wedding with short dresses, spec not the 14 y/o who probably cant walk in them. i explained this to them nicely, said i went to the store and decided i didnt like them. If they could return them it would be great. the older sister flipped out. she "would only wear a shoe if it were under $25 and thats it." she is financially challenged and I told her from the beginning I would respect that. I thought demanding $25 was a bit over the top but I did find something…
so i got over that. i thought its better to choose my battles than fight about all of it. so I found a strappy sandle, cute for both dresses for $25. I told her, asked when I could pick her and my other sister up so we could go buy them and then I get an email (I only get emails and texts from my sister when she doesnt want to face reality) saying "no, we went these, we like these, we bought them and this is what we are wearing"
I am crazy mad but think…its shoes – does it really matter? But its the principle of the thing. I am thinking about buying them the shoes and calling it their BM gift. At this point I know thats tacky but its the only solution I can come up with that solves the problem without screaming at her 2 weeks b/f the wedding.