(Closed) Bridesmaid being more involved than moh, help please.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

What about creating CO-MoHs? Then you aren’t demoting your current MoH but also able to give the Bridesmaid or Best Man the credit she deserves.

Post # 5
8359 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I thought the maid of honour was supposed to be the person you feel closest to and who you wanted to stand up with you on your wedding day to witness your marriage and not the person who has the most time for you or does the most stuff for you?

In your post you say she is asking about your wedding- hence being supportive. And that you are upset that she isn’t sharing details with you- maybe she is sharing that with her MOH? Are you upset that you made her Maid/Matron of Honor and she didn’t make you hers?

Post # 7
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@j_jaye:  My thoughts exactly.  I really don’t understand where the idea that some people have (not necessarily OP) came from that the Maid of Honor is supposed to be the bride’s personal assistant.  I chose mine because she is my closest friend and on my wedding day, I can’t imagine anyone else standing next to me.  As for my wedding, she hasn’t done anything except contributed to the shower which is being put on collectively by my bridesmaids and mother.  I would never even think of “demoting” her for this!

I think it’s silly to have two maids-of-honor and one bridesmaid.  Did you express your expectations to your bridesmaids in the beginning?

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