Post # 1
I was just wondering for some opinions on this…
For my wedding, the bouquets, corsages, and boutoneirres will all be made out of clay. I have never been in a wedding, but I’m sure that in most weddings involving real flowers, the bridesmaids keep their bouquets (not sure on this, but they would just die anyway, right?). Well, since mine will be keepsakes forever (!), I want to keep them. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, so I want her to have her bouquet as a keepsake, but I would like to have a couple of the bridesmaids bouquets to use in my home, and I’m sure my mother would like one, too. My question is, how do I go about letting the bridesmaids know they don’t need to take them home? (I’ve already bought their gifts, and have spent almost $100 each on these bouquets). Can anyone give me advice?
Post # 3
Hmm, I’m not sure, maybe if you have vases to display them at the reception, then they wouldn’t think to get them afterward? Honestly, I’m not really sure, hopefully someone else will have better information than me!
Post # 4
Hmm…if I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding with clay flowers, I would think that the bride was going to let me keep it. Now, I am not the sentimental type, so I wouldn’t want it, so I would probably offer it to you.
I think you just need to mention to them that you are looking forward to using them in your house, etc. or just tell them that you want them back.
Post # 5
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in October & I honestly don’t even remember where my bouquet ended up. I loved it, it was really beautiful. I’m gonna have to ask the bride whatever happened to them, I think maybe some of the little girls that were at the wedding may have gotten them.
Post # 6
Most of the time there’s some kind of vase or something to stick Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets in at the reception, and I have absolutely no idea where any of mine have ended up after that. Even as I try to imagine some scenario of where they could have gone, I simply can’t. The one time I used soemthing different it was a small fan which we all kept. But esp. if it was something like clay flowers I would have been very happy to leave them for the bride for whom it would mean a lot more than it would to me.
By The Way, can you show pics of these? Sounds cool.
Post # 7
You might want to consider asking your bridesmaids to sign the bouquets somehow or write a short note to you that will be attached to the bouquet. Let them know that you want to have the memory of them everytime you see "their" bouquet. Making it a sentimental connection between the two of you will let them know that you want them back without the awkwardness of saying, "Hey, fork it over sister!"
Post # 8
Serya, that’s a wonderful idea! What a great way to make it sentimental for both the bride and Bridesmaid or Best Man. Love it!!
Post # 9
First off, welcome to Weddingbee!
From what I’ve heard, most BMs don’t know what happens to their bouquets at the end of the night, so maybe at the reception you can ask them (and the Groomsmen with their bouts) to store them somewhere so it’s easier for you to take home with you. I would be honest with them and tell them you would like to keep them for your home, but if I were you I would offer to let them keep theirs if they REALLY wanted it. Most likely they don’t, but it would be a nice gesture and I’m sure everyone would be happy.
Post # 11
eek – i would feel weird asking them to give their bouquets up. this is definitely a conversation you need to have with them before the wedding – i am sure they will be understanding.
Post # 12
I’m not sure what to think. I’ve only been in two other weddings. I believe I took the bouquet home each time. At this point, they’ve disappeared. Probably got thrown out after some time dried up, collecting dust. I will say that I do enjoy taking them home, even if they eventually die. I guess after all the money, and energgy spent for someone else’s wedding, as a Bridesmaid or Best Man I might be thinking geting to keep my bouquet as a momento is a perk I’d expect. And if these are flowers that won’t die, the BMs might be thinking this is something really cool they can use afterwards. On the other hand maybe they aren’t like me, and don’t care too much.
Do they already know about the clay flowers? Are you far into your planning proces? I think if you’re in early stages and can nip it in the bud early, maybe you can just e-mail them straight out and tell them you would like to have the flowers as a keepsake.
A few more suggestions…
1. I don’t know anything about clay flowers, but is it something you can take maybe a few "sprigs" or what have you from each bouquet? That way you, mom, and the BMs all can walk away with a keepsake.
2. If you take the bouquets, can you offer them something else like to each take a centerpiece home, so they won’t feel empty handed?
3. Is it possible to maybe spend extra money to either buy an extra bouquet for you and your mom, or buy small real bouquets to offer to the BMS to take home? I guess similar to the centerpiece idea.
Post # 14
i was just in a wedding a few months ago, and I honestly have no idea where my bouquet went! o know they were used to decorate the bride/groom table at the reception, and nobody took them home that i remember.
just tell your girls, you want to save them. i am sure they were not planning on bringing them home anyway. like you said – they will die eventually!
Post # 15
I thought about this, too. I am making all of the personal flowers (bouquets, corsages, boutonnieres) out of fabric and buttons, so it will be quite the labor of love. These will be a gift to the bridesmaid. Not "the" bridesmaid gift, but something extra. Unlike every other wedding I’ve been in, their bouquet will last forever! Hopefully they’ll want it forever, but either way, it’s theirs to keep.