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We allowed all of our bridesmaids and groomsmen to bring dates. A couple of them chose not to, but we made it a rule that the wedding party had the right if they so chose.
I know that it's frustrating to have guests there that you don't know. We made the sacrifice for our WP, but it's up to you whether that's the right call for your wedding.
Well, I think I'd be pretty offended if I were a BM and the bride asked me not to bring a date, esp if I was dating someone. Maybe this girl shouldn't be your bridesmaid if you're not close enough with her that you're interested in meeting her boyfriend?
If she is dating someone, you should let her invite him. It's not as if she just picked him out of a catalog to come to your wedding- they're dating! Even if you don't like him, she should get an invite.
If they're coupled up when you send the invites (regardless of whether you think it'll last), they get a plus-one. That's the technical rule- couples are a social unit and need to be invited as such.
That said, have you asked her? My one BM is dating someone, but because of a bunch of NWR issues, she's already told me that she probably won't bring him. I'm giving her a plus-one anyway, but she said she'd rather just have fun with our friends rather than dealing with is he ok, is he having fun, etc (he'd only know her and me, not even FI).
After much discussion we've decided to allow everyone a +1 in our bridal party. Not all of them are bringing a date, but we felt it was only fair since 2 of the groomsmen wanted to bring their casual girlfriends.
@sweetpea87: I feel that the wedding party should be allowed to bring +1s... especially bridesmaids. They have probably worked really hard to make your day special and deserve to have some fun and enjoy the reception. IMO, it's a small courtesy to offer one of your most important people the option to bring a date.
I had some members of the WP who chose not to bring dates, they said that they weren't dating anyone serious and would have more fun with the friends who were there.
Meh, she's not actually doing so much as a bridesmaid. She's not very accomodating, and feels I should be doing everything around her schedule. She's kinda been acting like she's been doing me a huge favor, and being a bridesmaid is an inconvenience to her, even though I've told her if it was, she could refuse no hard feelings. She even told me when we were at dinner with our friends, out loud so everyone could hear, "I'm not getting you a wedding present. I've already spent enough money as it is." So, had she not already bought the dress, I would have kicked her out.
As for allowing everyone in the bridal party, 2 of them are single and don't want to bring friends, one is married, and one has been with her bf for 8 years, and he's a good friend of mine, so I figured it would be okay if I let their SOs come, since it's such a different situation. But. If it is *really* unfair of me to refuse her a date, I guess I'll invite him. Anyway, I suppose I could be wrong. Maybe he really *is* different...I guess I'd feel badly if they ended up married, and I'd refused him an invite. Anyway, he's French. An American wedding might be interesting for him. If they're different...I really don't know.
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I originally typed a rant about my parents and MIL adding guests even after I ordered invitations. So now we have as many invites to mail as we ordered. But figured y'all didn't want to read a page of my frustration. Haha. So!
Do I have to let my bridesmaids bring a date? There's one girl in particular, she'll know half the people at the wedding, so it's not like she'll be awkwardly alone. I just don't want to invite her current flavor-of-the-week (or last few months). My other bridesmaid keeps telling me not to worry about it cuz they'll probably break up soon anyway. It sounds mean, but you don't know this girl. She purposely seeks out guys who don't want a real relationship, then convinces herself they'll change their minds. My wedding will be fairly small and intimate. I've never even met this guy, and am not interested in having him there. But if I have to invite him, I will.