Bridesmaid choose dress colors?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should bridesmaids be allowed to pick the color of their dresses?
    Yes! Then they can get more use - if you LIKE it, you'll WEAR it as the saying goes. : (9 votes)
    15 %
    No. I'm the bride, it is my wedding. When they get married, they can pick the color. : (28 votes)
    45 %
    Maybe, as long as they follow guidelines outlined prior to picking dresses and I approve. : (25 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    4366 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I had to pick my dress for the last wedding I was in. It was very stressful. The bride was vague and you could tell she wanted something specific but didn’t want to limit us. Then the other bridesmaid wanted the color I picked (I just happened to pick first, but I did wait like 2 months because I didn’t care that much). She was indecisive about what color she wanted until I picked my dress (which I bought on ebay so I couldn’t get another color).

    Post # 4
    1340 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I have one bridesmaid. I told her to wear whatever she wants as long as it’s formal. But I guess if you only have one bridesmaid, they automatically match, huh? lol

    Post # 5
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MrsVtoBee:  I picked the color, because I don’t want it to clash with the wedding colors, but I am letting my bridesmaids pick whatever style in that color they want! I mean, with my approval, but I doubt they can really go wrong. As long as no one is scandalously dressed or something. I think I’m also going to tellt hemt o wear a neutral shoe they already have and whatever jewelery they want!

    Post # 6
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    We’re letting all of the ladies in our party choose their own dresses as long as they’re fall colors. They seem to like it a lot. The first time we’ll see them together in their dresses will be at the wedding.

    Post # 7
    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I tried to do the whole “choose your own dress” idea, but 2 wanted satin, one wanted chiffon, the other wanted jersey.  Sooooo yeah, I ended up choosing the dress.  lol  I am still debating the color however..

    Post # 8
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I have two women standing with me and FI’s sister is his BW. Everybody is picking what they want. We gave general direction with the color. First friend found hers quick, on sale. BW was a little more hesitant to pick so I sent her links and she found one at Target we all like. The 3rd hasn’t found one but is taking cues off the other two.  Both so far are short, V neck, halter tops, one is yellow and the other fuchsia.  

    Post # 9
    3112 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MrsVtoBee:  I think that would be gorgeous!  Maybe a deep teal, deep purple, and a steel gray.  A few from Google images…


    Post # 10
    938 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I wanted my bridesmaids in a black dress. I left them tp pick the style and fabric. I really didn’t care what they picked, as long as they were happy. They ended up finding a dress the same time I bought my wedding dress and all 3 loved it instantly. No headaches for me!

    Post # 11
    1040 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I couldn’t decide on a colour scheme so I picked out the dress with my girls first, and then chose a colour palette (nude pink & antique gold). But I hate traditional bridesmaid dresses and wanted to buy a knee length dress off the high street so if I chose the colours first I would have been very limited.

    Post # 12
    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’ve said to my BM’s I’m picking the colour. But, they can pick the style that is most flattering to them and makes them feel good. Happy BM’s = happy photos! (hopefully). 

    Post # 13
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I picked a color and length and let my ladies go from there. The ombre thing can be a bit hard to pull off. It actually requires more guidance and structure otherwise it may end up looking unbalanced or off. 

    Post # 14
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    It gets too confusing when brides want something pretty specific, but try to have bridesmaids pick it. If you want ombré, tell them the different color options and if you want certain styles, designers, fabrics, etc and take it from there. But say specifically what you want – as a bridesmaid, it’s too hard to guess what the bride likes and doesn’t. If you really don’t care, then giving fewer guidelines is fine. 

    Post # 15
    5392 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MrsVtoBee:  We let ours pick, within reason; and we’re paying for the dresses.

    My MOH and junior bridesmaid are going to be in ivory, as MOH wanted to wear a neutral colour, but felt black or grey would be too heavy, and so I suggested ivory. We decided to have our junior bridesmaid in ivory too to complement her.

    We then spoke to the other three. Initially, they were going to wear different dresses, but they decided they wanted to match. So, we worked with them to find a style we all agreed on: they all loved chiffon, and definitely wanted chiffon, and one really wanted floor-length, whereas the other 2 weren’t fussed on length, so we went with floor length. They then choose the style (two are matching; one is slightly different (they’re different body shapes).

    We then let them pick the colour. My ONLY stipulations were no pastels, and not dark purple (as I know loads of people having dark purple and just don’t like the colour). They choose a bright, rich, emerald green.

    I wanted them to feel comfortable and look good, and the green suited all of them. I’m glad we gave them so much input, and wouldn’t have dreamt of dictating what they wore, even though their dresses are costing us about £230/$340 each.

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