- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
My best friend of 10 years and her husband played matchmaker, and introduced me to my FI who happened to be my best friends husbands best friend! (Confused yet? 😉 )
We’ll call my best friend “A”, and my best friends husband “D”. Well, My FI and D actually met at work, and were best friends. Leading up to our engagement, whenever my FI and I would talk about our wedding party, both D and A were always included. A had known that we were planning on having her and D both stand, and also her 3 year old as our ring bearer!
After we were engaged, I formally asked all of my BM’s. My FI took a little more time, but was really procrastinating asking D. He always would just tell me that he hadn’t seen him yet. Well, truth is, my FI no longer felt close to D and was pretty upset about some backstabbing he did at work. So, he made the decision to not put D in the wedding, and instead put a different friend from work in.
When A asked me why my FI hadn’t asked D, I finally broke down and told her my FI had chose someone else. She blew it completely out of proportion, sending a long mass text to me, D and my FI saying my FI was not being a “real man”, that this would come in between our friendship, she can’t believe that we would betray them, and we need to find a place for D in our wedding or she would just not be in it.
I was outraged!! I attempted to call her (no answer), and finally sent her a message back saying that our friendship should not have anything to do with this decision, I’m sorry she was upset that OUR wedding party was not living up to HER expectations, and that I was truly upset by her. Things got ugly, we said things both of us probably didn’t mean, and it ended with her saying that there was just no room for a friendship between the 4 of us in our lives. That was a month ago, and we haven’t spoken since (with the exception of a “thank you” text I sent after receiving a Christmas card from her)…
Sorry this is so long. I need to vent!! Am I out of line? Worst part, my FI never particularly liked A and is on cloud 9 that we aren’t speaking! Even making comments like “I’m so happy that drama is out of our lives”. I do get a little offended.. We were best friends for10 years! I need some advice fellow bees! 🙁