Bridesmaid costs

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Tiamariaqqq:  If you don’t have the money for her shower and bachelorette, just let her know, but I wouldn’t not go along with her parties just to spite them for it. If they don’t have money then they don’t have money right?

Post # 4
7282 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Tiamariaqqq:  If other people (her other BM’s) are willing to pay for these parties then just let them do it. Contribute what or how you can.

If it is the bride expecting you to pony up crazy cash to throw these parties for her then work out what you can afford to pay for them and let her know that your budget wont extend tot eh things she wants.

Post # 5
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just tell whoever is doing the planning for these events what your budget will handle.

Post # 6
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

@julies1949:  +1  If costs get out of hand, you’ve let them know that you can’t cover that right now and just wish them a fun night.

Post # 7
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

@Tiamariaqqq:  I don’t think you should play “tit for tat” and she didn’t do such and such for me. However, I also don’t think you shouldn’t do anything you can’t afford, or at least something that you are financially uncomfortable doing. If it’s too expensive for your taste, I would be honest and let her know. But I wouldn’t do it because she didn’t drop the dough on you.

Post # 9
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Tiamariaqqq: If you not having the budget = ruining her day, yikes! I’d just be upfront with her and the other bridesmaids about what you can handle financially. Talk to her separately because you don’t want resentment to ruin your and her experience. 

She should understand, because you just got through your wedding too. 

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