Post # 1
just sti looking for some advice here.. I have chosen to have 3 bridesmaids and I have two so far I have asked now I need to decide on a third.
Because I have moved a lot I don’t have a lot of childhood or really old friends. I was going to ask a girl I’ve been friends with for a bit over a year but lately she has been hard to get hold of or shes always busy and im feeling a bit let down but we always have a great time when we are together.
the other two choices I have are my two step sisters (from different families) they also don’t live near me but one has always been there and the other we are friends and we always have a great time.
so hard how do I choose?
any advice is great. Thanks 🙂
Post # 2
Pick who you are more likely to still be close with in 10-20 years. You want to look at your photos and be happy, not think ‘oh I wish I had asked x instead of y’
My aunt still talks about how one of her bridesmaids she hasn’t talked to since about 6months post wedding, and how she wishes she had asked one of her cousins that she has always been close to.
Post # 3
Charishieke: I think you are thinking about this backwards. You should ask yourself, “Who are my nearest and dearest that I absolutely want to stand next to me at my wedding?”, not “I want three bridesmaids, so who can fill the spots?”
Post # 4
Charishieke: What’s the reason you need 3, instead of 2?
Post # 5
merpitymerp: agreed! I’m going to have 6 bridesmaids which is more than I ever thought I would. I was initially worried about it, but my mom made a good point, you should have the people you care about up there, don’t worry about the numbers. Every girl I am having as a bridesmaid is there for a good reason, these are the people I want with me when I get married, that’s all that matters.
Post # 6
I agree with these ladies. Don’t think about it in terms of a number of spots to fill- think about who you want getting ready with you, and standing beside you. The number of bridesmaids and groomsmen don’t have to be equal. (Although keep in mind that the more maids you ask the more expensive it will be in terms of gifts/bouquets/etc.)
Post # 7
Charishieke: I’m a little confused as to what you mean by “I have chosen to have three bridesmaids” but you don’t know who the 3rd is. It sounds like you are forcing yourself into having a third. So just have two!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for ur advice. I chose 3 originally because I thought I knew who I wanted to have and because my fiancé has 3 groomsmen. It’s good to know Having 2 is fine. I am close to all of these girls but it’s hard to choose. I might just stick with 2.
Thanks guys 🙂