Post # 1
Hi everyone, so I have a bridesmaids dilema, I have 5 bridesmaids which includes my matron of honor, me sister, I also have another friend who I am most likely going to ask, however there is one more friend that I am not asking. She isn’t n hasn’t been as close to me as the other girls. She recently had her wedding n asked me to be in it n then last minute said no bc she was just having her sister (which was abs. fine with me). Now one of my friends said I should have her bc I may as well since I may ask my other friend n since she orignally asked me to be in hers. But isn’t it true that you can have whoever you want whether you were in or not in others wedding party?? Do you really think her feelings will be hurt?? Also my future hubby may only have 3-4 guys on his side so I’m trying to figure out how to pair ppl up, but that’s a whole other issue ughh. Any suggestions girls??
Post # 3
I don’t think you have to ask her just because she asked you. If you don’t feel that close to her then I wouldn’t ask.
I think a good rule of thumb is, will we still be friends in 10 years? I don’t think you need to worry about keeping sides even at this stage, just focus on having girls you are close to stand up with you.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
You have absolutely no obligation to ask her. If you want to include her in some other way, there are plenty of ways to do that! Like asking her to throw a shower for you or having her do a reading in your ceremony.
Post # 5
i agree – you dont have to ask her just because you were in her wedding party previously.
Post # 6
I agree with the others, you aren’t obligated to ask her just because she asked you. I was a BM for two girls who were not in my wedding party, as we aren’t as close as we were when they got married.