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It would be a fun surprise for them to get in the mail- either way they'll be happy. Ask each of them individually and then plan a celebration later.
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I think it would mean more to them if you asked them personally, or sent them the scrapbooks. Asking them in a group setting would seem a bit impersonal, and you want to honor them by asking them. Unless, of course, this is a tight group of friends. My bridesmaids came from all different areas of my life, so asking them in a big group would have been very impersonal b/c they didn't know each other well.
let me clarify by saying they are a tight knit group of friends. We do pretty much everything together, which is why I thought it would be fun to ask them together, except for one bridesmaid who lives in NY who I am planning on asking seperately, because I'm sure she would prefer it that way. It would also be an inconvenience for her.
Maybe if you try something a little less formal it would be easier to get them together. Call them each personally and invite them to dinner Friday night (this way no one else finds out). Make them a big dinner, buy a few bottles of wine, and ask them all as a toast before dinner. I think your idea to tell them as a group is great and I am super impressed by the scrapbook idea. If you give them all to them together at the beginning of the night you can sit around for the rest of the evening drinking wine, eating good food, and going through the scrap books together. It would be a great little trip down memory lane. With no pressure for a busy night it will be easier to get them to commit to coming over and making them a special dinner will be a nice treat.
I wanted to ask all my 'maids together, but we were all leaving for vacations and internships and about half of us would be out of town at any given point for about five months. So, I sent the requests in the mail. One of my friends (she got engaged a few weeks later) improved the concept by sending each of us a package telling us to log on to AIM at a particular date and time (on an evening during the week when we would all be able to access a computer). The note was taped on another box within the first one and there was a note not to open that inner box until we received further instructions. So, we all openend her gift and request at the same time - more or less. It was great because we do most things together, so it was another shared moment.
rnc620, I love your idea, that is the vibe I want, just a fun girls night!
I can't believe how many great ideas you came up with that got flumoxed in some totally random way! I can understand your frustration--you've come up with some pretty thoughtful ways of "popping the question"! I have found that when it comes to weddings, people have a really hard time waiting for the formality (I noticed this a lot with people's eagerness to know if they were going to be invited to the wedding, my stagette, and other wedding-related activities). But in the case of bridesmaids being asked, there isn't really a formal expected way of doing it, so your friends are probably just really eager to get the official title and know that they're in the wedding. I don't think there's any point in prolonging it further if you've already done the scrapbooks, so maybe try the lowkey dinner party option, but commit that if this one last attempt doesn't work you should just give it up and do it individually. After all, how much longer can you go on like this??! I couldn't wait to ask my girls!
I love your idea but it doesn't sound like it is going to work out. It sounds like at this point it would make more sense for you to ask each of them individually and then have a celebratory get together at a later date.
I like the idea of sending each girl a scrapbook and note :) Something they will definitely cherish.
Wow, you are one determined bride and a lovely friend! If you can't get them together anytime soon, just sent them their scrapbooks and I'm sure they'll love it. This way you can make sure they are all asked and you don't have to stress about it anymore. You can always tell them after what you kept trying to do and I'm sure they'll still appreciate the many attempted gestures.
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I don't have bridesmaids, but I saw (online) a bride had bought each of her bridesmaids an ugly dress from ebay (think 80s) and got them all together to hand them out to them. She gave them a each saying that she would love it for them to be her bridemaid and she had already bought them their dress. It was too funny.
I know there are pics of it somewhere....on to search for them
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I got engaged in October and since my wedding will be two years after the date I got engaged, I wanted to wait a little before asking the bridal party. A few of my friends and sister threw us an engagement party and I think they are hurt I still haven't asked them, one girl has made a couple of comments.
The thing is, I actually have tried to ask them. I made my decision at the end of December, a couple weeks before the engagement party. Before they booked the place, I sent them an invitation to go to Newport for a night to go to a Bridal show. I found a great deal on a hotel and was planning on asking there, but then they booked the engagement party on that night, so that didn't work out.
Next, I told the girl's I wanted to do a signature drink tasting for the party (made up as a way to get them all together). I sent an invitation to my future bridesmaids and stupidly forgot to save it when I changed the status to private, so another friend saw and invited herself, so my plan on doing it that night didn't work.
That was the week before the party. So I didn't have time to do it on another day before the party. I sent them all messages and said I wanted to take them to Bride Wars for a girls day to thank them for the amazing party. Two girls responded, then another one made plans and ended up seeing it. So that didn't work out.
I sent a fourth message saying that since that day didn't work out, I wanted them to pick a day that we could all get together and I wanted to do something nice for them as a thank you. I gave them dates that would work in the near future. My sister responded with the days she could do it and two others said tehy could do any day. The one who hasn't responded is the one who keeps asking me when I am going to do it.
At this point, should I keep trying to get them together or should I just send them in the mail and/or do it individually? I made them each a scrapbook explaining why I want them in the bridal party with the question, Will you be my bridesmaid? at the end. I got them each a little thank you gift and note as well for the party and am contemplating whether or not I should just send the note, because it has been a little over two weeks since the party and I don't want them to think I am ungrateful. I have verbally told them how nice it was, but I think a thank you note is real important.
I have asked my isster to be my Maid of Honor, I am just trying to get everyone together and do something nice to ask, but it is starting to stress me out. Any ideas or opinions? I would really appreciate some help on this one!
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