- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
I am having such a dilemma trying to choose bridesmaids!!
I have chosen my best male friend as my man of honor, and have asked one of my closest friends to be a bridesmaid. I haven’t asked anyone else yet. FI is having his BM and one other GM. He doesn’t have any brothers and isn’t very close to any other guys. That’s fine with both of us. We are happy with a small WP.
My problem comes with what to do next. I have a best friend that I’ve known since I was in preschool. I was in her wedding last October. I haven’t asked her yet, but I really want her to be my third BM!
She has a sister who pretty much expects to be in my wedding. The sister doesn’t have very many friends so she considers me one of her best friends, and like a sister to her. I care for her, but not anywhere near as much as she cares for me it
seems. To me she is just my best friend’s sister, but to her I am one of her best friends. I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I just can’t see her being one of my BM!
I also have another close friend I’d like to ask, but I’m not sure. I would REALLY hurt my best friend’s sister’s feelings if I asked this girl and not her, I feel like I either have to choose both other girls, or neither. I really don’t want 5 on my side and 2 on his. I’m okay with having uneven numbers, but not that uneven! Plus we do really want a small party.
Should I choose my best friend and not her sister? Add all 3 girls? Or just stick with my 2 and my have my best friend in the wedding?