Bridesmaid Dillema ! HELP

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would just work on the wedding with your Best Friend and your husband.  None of my bridesmaids really helped with anything and I didnt expect them to.  It is not worth starting a fight with.  New families and weddings always cause stress – and i can see it turning sour if you say that they aren’t interested in your wedding because M’s is 9 months after.  The truth is that is probably the case – but don’t get in a fight about it.  If they offer to help or you need their help ask – but don’t get upset if they decline.

Post # 4
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965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

no. You don’t ask someone to be a bridesmaid because you want their free labor for the wedding. 

If you want to have a second friend as a BM because you love her and cherish her and couldn’t think of your wedding day without her, go oft it. But don’t treat this like an employment agreement. 

Post # 5
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42538 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would keep things the way they are. Although it’s nice to have someone to bounce ideas off of, and company when you are shopping, there really isn’t “work” for the BM’s to do.

 

Post # 9
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965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@inwaiting:  I still stick by my response. If you really want this woman at your wedding as your honor attendant then ask her, but don’t ask her because you think she will help with the weddinG. She might have no interest in your wedding plans at all (like your FSILs).

Post # 10
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2893 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@inwaiting:  I wouldn’t worry about keeping things even.  It’s fairly comon now not to be even.  I definatly woulnd’t ask someone to be in my bridal party “just to keep things even.”   If you are hesitant about asking someone for a second, don’t ask.  Drama can start easily, and having one less person is one less place for drama.

Post # 12
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42538 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@inwaiting:  My Dad always used to say “No one ever promised you that life would be fair.”

Post # 13
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Are M and L sisters? I could understand their excitement then, even if it’s not fair to you!

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