(Closed) Bridesmaid Drama

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4512 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Go with your instinct (i think!) and include her.

I hate the idea of “earning” friendship back. We all make mistakes and do things we’re not proud of sometimes, right? The fact that she wants to be included tells me her heart is in the right place. Let the past go. 

ETA: I realize you’re forgiving her and your concern is more with your family/the other BMs…. but I think if they see you accepting her, they will too. If you have to, you can say something to them like, “I’ve forgiven her; please forgive her too.”

Post # 5
6 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

If it truly breaks your heart to think about her not being a bridesmaid, then you should just bite the bullet and ask her. I have had to make a few decisions this way.. it broke my heart to think of having an inside wedding, so even though Fiance is Catholic we will not have our wedding in a church. The other friends/family dont have to like it. They dont have to agree with it. Tell them to be civil, and mention to your friend that these people are hostile to her so she needs to behave herself.

Post # 6
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

To be honest , she is your friend not theirs. She should have to earn her way in with them. She just needs to be there for you as a friend!

Post # 7
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I say go with what feels right. 

Post # 8
14 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow. This is tough!


I understand how it is to not talk to a BFF. I’m going thur that right now & haven’t talk to my friend for over a year. We were like sisters and its sad because I’m planning my wedding right now.. I sometimes wish I had enough balls to call her. I think you should go with your gut feeling because only you would know what kind of relationship you have with her. If you’rehaving second thoughts then maybe no? As we get older I’ve come to an understanding that people just grow apart. Sad but true 🙁 goodluck with your decision! 🙂

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