- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
heres the deal, LONG STORY
i have a friend (ill call her Y) and we have been friends since 6th grade. We were best friends throughout highschool and even went to college together/and roomed together. I had always thought that she would be Maid/Matron of Honor but after graduation and starting careers, we really drifted apart. even when we get together things just arent the same. I feel like im in a different stage of life and shes still stuck in the same outlook and attitude of life that she was in highschool. So we cant really relate anymore.
Well I had another friend throughout highschool (Ill call her Z) that i was really close to, but not nearly as close as i was to Y. She moved away at the end of high school and i went to college. Turns out Z ended up in a relationship with my brother after she moved back!
so Z and my brother ended up having a baby and our families have gotten so close. me and Z’s friendship has only gotten stronger and she is family now.
Here is where the drama is: I never officially asked Y to be my Maid/Matron of Honor or even a bridesmaid for that matter. She assumed she was Maid/Matron of Honor.
I wasn’t sure who i wanted to be Maid/Matron of Honor yet because I had been such good friends with Y for so long, but Z is now basically my sister and we are very close again and see each other often. I asked Y and Z to come with me to find a dress and Y always says that shes def available just to let her know when. The very same day that i asked her what her availability was, i make some appts and she proceeds to tell me “oh i have to see” “im not sure” ugh so, whatever i keep cool and invite her to the next one…same excuses….it just seemed to me that she didnt even want to take part in anythng. so I made Z my Maid/Matron of Honor and Y was livid.
Now that things are settled i invited her and all the other girls to look for bridesmaids dresses….and from Y? Same excuses…shes always available and then when the time comes all of a sudden she cant make it.
so the girls picked out their dresses and the bridal shop is holding the order until Y can come in to try hers on, be measured and put down her deposit. I asked her when she can do this and OF COURSE she says any weekend is good.
so i ask her how about this wkend?? and her response? “if i have gas” if she doesnt have money for gas how can she assume the financial responsibilities to be in a wedding…i told her she needs at least 100 for deposit and she tells me she doesnt have it..
it urks me the way she is acting when she was making a huge deal out of being MOH!
what do i do? do i ask her if she isnt financially stable enough to be in this wedding, or would taht just cause even more drama.?? in my opinion i think she is just lazy and doesnt want to make the trips down or do anything with the bridal party.