- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I am in great need of advice. I am Maid/Matron of Honor to my best friend’s wedding and organized her bachelorette party with the other bridesmaids since I am the only one coming from out of state, and obviously did not know the area.
So for about 2 months, I arranged it by emailing back and forth with 2 bridesmaids who lived there. I appreciated their input but I could immediately tell that one Bridesmaid or Best Man was a bit snarky. For example, I had suggested of tour of the football stadium since the bride was a big football fan, and she emailed back pretty much saying that it didn’t sound good and that she didn’t quite understand why we would be doing something like that. I did not want to judge someone thru email so I thought maybe once we’d meet, I would understand why she would be friends with my Boyfriend or Best Friend.
I was wrong. The moment I arrived, she was short with me, pretty much shot down every idea I mentioned, and would even drop snarky comments for me to hear. Even other attendees of the bachelorette party who have never met her before, were asking amongst themselves what her problem was.
i again brought up the football thing, got shot down. She pretty much said that logistically, it wasn’t doable, despite another bridesmaid saying, we should at least try.
The bride’s main request was pictures. She loves pictures and videos and wants a ton of them during the party. I brought my camera and tripod to ensure this would happen. We took pictures all day around the city, and went clubbing later. after a few minutes of pics and videos, Ms. Bitch actually pushed the camera down while I was holding it and yelled at me, saying that I needed to stop and that I was ruining HER night. I bit the urge to fight back, and just said ‘Alright’,so as not to make a scene and ruin the bride’s night. But everyone saw it, even the bride, who did not say a word.
A couple of girls commended me for handling it well. That I thought of the bride before I did anything I would regret. Later, the bride did pull me aside and said that she saw what happened and I should not think that she was ignoring it, and that what the other girl did was wrong. But that was it. Later that night, she was hugging and thanking Ms Bitch for a wonderful night.
I tried to make the most of that weekend, taking in more bitchy comments along the way. I tried to talk to the bride, and all she kept saying was how surprised she was that her friend was bitchy and that it shouldn’t have happened, and that I was doing what she wantEd most of all, taking pictures and such. But again, that was it. I even overheard her talking to another girl, who actually had a lot of stories of Ms Bitch being like that, which made me think that I was not just an isolated case. Ms Bitch is a real bitch and I don’t know why they are friends.
My own fiancée says that my friend should’ve said something at that moment, but she did not even stick up for me. Which makes me very sad. Am I wrong to want that? The party had left such a bad taste in my mouth, and I am dreading the wedding that is coming up in a month. I almost want to drop out being Maid/Matron of Honor but I know that is just making things worse. I had already told her that she was going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor a long time ago, but now I wish I hadn’t said it. I felt that she picked a side, and it wasn’t mine.
People say that Ms Bitch was probably just jealous of me being Maid/Matron of Honor. I didn’t know there was such a thing. How ridiculous.
i don’t know what to do or say. Should I let this go and pretend it never happened and go on with her wedding? Or should I do.. Something?!
Thanks in advice. Sorry for the long post.