- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Ok… I need to make this rant because I’m LOSING my mind lately! I never imagined I’d be this stressed out about my wedding, but here we are…
Anyway, let me start off by saying that 3 of my BM have been AMAZING! They have offered nothing but help, my MOH has been unreal and I couldn’t be happier with these ladies… the other 2… well, there’s been issues.
I really really wish I had waited until more recently to choose my BMs… and heres why.
BM#1… my cousin. We are fairly close and I asked her to stand for me a while ago.. everything was great and she was being super helpful, but she does live away and I understand that meant she couldn’t be around for most things but every time she was she wanted to help, come to appts, etc, and was amazing. I’ll give her that. However, some recent drama has sparked that makes me more than a little upset… her and her bf recently got engaged. That’s fine, I was super happy for them. However, ever since then it seems like she is trying to make everything all about her.. and my family is being the same. My grandmother and aunts have always played favorites and her and her sister are always center of attention… whatever, I deal with it… but ever since this engagement it’s been like nobody even knows that i’m getting married anymore. The biggest thing is this: She’s not getting married until summer of 2015!! 2 years from now!!! but EVERY mention of weddings goes to her now instead of me, who is getting married in less than 2 months! I feel like I’m sounding super selfish but I can’t help but be extremely frustrated. The first thing was this: my cousin planned a last minute engagement party for a recent sunday past….. the day after my jack and jill that has been being planned for months now. When I told her that I wouldn’t be able to make her party because of our jack and jill the night before (and the fact that it was a 2hr drive away), she was PISSED and then had my aunt call my mom to tell her how upset she was, who then called me telling me that I had upset my cousin and should make the effort to travel for her engagement party because I had hurt her feelings…… um, what? Needless to say this didn’t go over well, I told my cousin that had it been any other day we would have tried to come, and she just kept repeating that this was the only day that both her and her bfs parents were free to have the party…. So you’re meaning to tell me that between now and 2 years from now this is the ONLY time they were available? Ugh. Disgusted. Needless to say I didn’t go, there was constant nagging about how I should make the effort to be there, however the ONLY family of mine that came to my jack and jill were my parents… because they all had to go to her party the next day.
Well, there’s that… along with constant FB posts from everybody about how amazing the engagement party was and how everybody cant wait until their wedding… Jealousy- maybe. But still… don’t I have a right to be?
Now, BM#2… my SIL… has done NOTHING for the wedding. (and I don’t mean help out with things, that part doesn’t bother me…) but the things that do drive my crazy are these:
-My mom had to buy her dress for her because she wasn’t ordering it and was showing no intention of ordering it at all
-Her and my brother recently moved across the country to live near their friends and ever since I haven’t even heard so much as a hello from her, when before they left I would get messages and calls all the time to chat about wedding stuff.
-Her 3 kids are also in the wedding and they still have no outfits picked out and she refuses to even talk about anything, she just ignores me every time I mention what they can wear
-They still haven’t even paid for flights home yet and just keep saying they plan to soon…
Should I be concerned? Am I being over dramatic? I feel like I am being over dramatic… calm my nerves? What’s wrong with me? I’m not a bridezilla ever! haha
piece of advice that I’ve learned.. WAIT to ask your BMs to stand for you!