- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I have one friend I’ve been friends with since highschool and all through college Let’s call her A. We used to be very close but towards the end of college we grew apart and had a falling out but still remained friends. Now two years post college I’m in the process of picking bridesmaids. I already have a few definites in mind including my future sister in law, my favorite cousin, my two roommates from college that I’ve been best friends with since freshman year… but I also have three friends that are close, A being one of them, that I was considering. I’m really closer with the other two even though I’ve been friends with A longer. I kept all my debating to myself and my mom. I already wasn’t keen on having 7 bridesmaids for a wedding of only 100. Also A and I’s friendship never fully recovered but I knew she would be upset if I didn’t include her. So I was just planning on putting it all off until closer to the wedding. I didn’t know if I would regret including A or not including A, incase we were closer a year from now.
I found out recently that A would be upset if I didn’t include her. My fiance was at a party with A (I was out of town) and she apparently got really drunk and started yelling at him that I had already picked my bridesmaids and she wasn’t one of them. Stating that I was her best friend and she should be included. First of all I never even told anyone who I was picking as bridesmaids… so was she already assuming she wouldn’t be one? I know my mom didn’t tell her about my doubts. Also, this kind of solidifies that assumption that she would want to be a bridesmaid for the wrong reason, as a popularity contest not because she wanted to support me. I’m not really a wedding person and I believe the other six would support me and help me with all the stress of wedding planning. But, I’m hurt I have to go through so much drama so early in the planning. I don’t want to embarass A by letting her know about her drunken freak out but I’m still stuck in putting off the announcement of bridesmaids bc I am afraid of A’s drama. I think I am still going to put it off in hopes that maybe A will grow up. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? and this early? The only thing I’ve picked is the venue. How much drama is along the way?