(Closed) Bridesmaid Drama – Brown Skin tones and Purple Dresses – What should I do?

posted 7 years ago in African-American
  • poll: What Should I do?
    kick my sisters out of the wedding and leave everything the way I want it : (22 votes)
    28 %
    have the MOH wear dark purple and the bridesmaid wear the lighter shade : (41 votes)
    53 %
    Change the accent color to Black instead of Purple (because blue and green are not options) : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Other (explain below) : (11 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Could they wear shawls/wraps in a colour that will help them feel more comfortable?

    Post # 4
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    WTF indeed!  This is your wedding!  Who do people think they are, to dictate what your colors should be?  Have they even tried any dresses yet of your color choice?  I think the purple you picked is lovely.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I’m in a similar situation.  Purple is one of my colors, too, but that was kind of problematic because one of my bridesmaids is a redhead (and the purple clashes with her hair), and another one is Japanese (she says the purple brings out too much yellow in her skin tone).  Our solution was to put them all in gray dresses, since that’s our other color.  Could you put yours in some sort of gold color with purple accents, or perhaps compromise and put them in a lighter shade of purple than you would have otherwise liked?  I also like tranquility’s idea of using a shawl in another color.

    ETA:  I just saw your response to her.  I guess the shawls are out.

    Post # 7
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    54 posts
    Worker bee

    Forget all of that…. THIS IS YOUR WEDDING!!!!  Sisters can be a pain in the butt, I know I have one. I made something clear to my little sis though and that is she is going to wear what I want her to wear. Also, that she needs to trust me because I wouldn’t want her to look bad in MY wedding. Now, if your sisters want to control what they wear than they need to either a) have their own wedding or b) contribute a big chunk to the wedding costs. If they do not want to do either, then they need to understand that you have the final choice. You can worry yourself crazy and try to appease them, but it’s not their wedding it’s yours. So give them the ultimatum to either trust you and help you complete your dream day, or they know where the door is. It’s their choice.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Did you just add a poll?  One of your choices made me think of bm’s wearing different shades of purple, like this.  What do you think?

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @MELIS5A:

    If they don’t like the colours, give them the option of not being in the party. But guaranteed, they will call you a bridezilla.

    I don’t think they handled the situation in the nicest way, but I can understand where they are coming from with not wanting to wear something that will make them feel uncomfortable.

    Post # 11
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    54 posts
    Worker bee

    refer to my comment…. You are the bride, not them. So they can either wear what you want them to or get out.

    Post # 12
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    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    …Show them a color wheel.  Yellow and purple are complementary colors; they look fantastic together.  Gold is just a metallic version of yellow, so it looks just as good. 

    Post # 14
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    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think dark purple looks wonderful on dark skin. I sould check out this link of another bee who just had those colors.

     

    Post # 15
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I agree with @mizzrose.  Stick with your vision.  Purple and gold look great together, reminds me of royalty.

    Post # 16
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    54 posts
    Worker bee

    @Elle_Neotoma: absolutely. I feel like with those colors these women should be honored. I feel like a African royal wedding is about to take place when I hear those colors. Stick with your vision girl…. and tell them when they get married that they can have their say. Too many chiefs and not enough indians…

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