- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Without explaining the whole back story- my BM lashed out at me via texting for an etiquette mistake that I made- okay fine I can deal with that. I recognize my mistake. She was ultimately trying to stand up for a mutual friend who was too shy to do herself. I spoke with our mutual friend directly and her and I are good. I explained the circumstances and she understood. (she was planning her own wedding less than 2 years ago…) We actually spent majority of our conversation swapping wedding planning stories and gave me some great tips!
Now for the BM who lashed out… When she sent me the first novel of a text I did NOT lash back… I tried to explain our ceremony situation… short and sweet… then she lashed out again and critisized my choice… By this time I had spoken with our mutual friend and just texted back BM saying; “I spoke with *insert friends name* directly and her and I are good” I have not heard back from BM… which is understandable… Yesterday I reached out to her and said “Hey I feel bad about what happen. Can we talk soon?” She actually responded right away sayng; “Yeah. Are you free in a couple of hours?”. I responded right away “of course”..
I never heard from her… and I get that people are doing their own thing.. but I am still kind of bummed I didnt hear a peep from her…even a friendly text saying “hey im sorry i didnt get a chance to call…raincheck?” (or something along those lines…) I feel like I took the higher road and opened the door for communication and even apologized about what happen when I never sent mean texts (when she sent nasty texts to me…) Then to add insult to injury- i saw on facebook that she was playing boggle with her boyfriend hours later…why would you ask me if I’m free in a couple of hours then post about your boggle game on facebook??
Perhaps I am being over sensitive…I do not know where to go from here…She’s a great friend and I want to nip this in the butt to do some damage control so we can celebrate together and move past this…My wedding is on July 19th, I live halfway across the country and won’t see her 11 days before the wedding…so this communication is crucial… I do not want to come across as overbearing but I am hurt she didnt call… Do I leave the ball in her court and wait for a phone call? Or do I make the 1st move (yet again)??
HELP BEES! Any advice would be appreciated.