Bridesmaid drama revisited

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@baroness:  yikes! That’s a tough one. It really depends…Is this a normal way of her acting? Because she doesn’t seem like much of a friend If she is always like that.  Maybe instead of MOH make her just a bridesmaid. That way you don’t have to rely on her for your wedding activities, etc. I would really think about it because it is YOUR day and nothing should ruin it.. 

Post # 5
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550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

i think if it were me, i’d give it a few months and see how things are going before making any decisions about including her again. and then perhaps you can find a way that won’t be such big deal for either of you if something changes again?

Post # 6
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387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@baroness:  Hot tempered bridesmaids are just no good. Really think about your decision and consider your FI feelings because after all it’s his wedding day too 🙂 Best of luck on your decision, I know it’s a difficult one. 

Post # 7
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Don’t invite her back into the bridal party. Putting those vengeance posts on FB is immature and I’d say she lost her chance at coming back even as a bridesmaid with those remarks. I would say you can still invite her to the wedding but keep her out of the loop on any wedding planning details etc. Just my opinion though. 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@baroness:  I’d invite her, but not invite her back in. You are just rekindling the friendship, and I know you aren’t one to hold a grudge, but after those things were said about your husband, I don’t blame him for having reservations, and I think it would be wise to just have her as a friend or invlude her a different way.

Post # 9
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3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

If she has JUST apologized- I would be open to reconnecting, but being in the wedding party would be out of the question. It looks like 8 months ago you were questioning inviting her back in, what has happened in the last 8 months?

Post # 10
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1503 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

At most, I would invite her to be a guest at the wedding. Sorry, but you don’t get to act like that and just get let back in my wedding. I would invite her as a guest and then work up to rebuilding the friendship.

Post # 11
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’d invite her to come as a guests only. She made her bed and now she has to lie in it.

Post # 12
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95 posts
Worker bee

I’ll vote with the “guest only” crowd. She’s already shown how volatile she can be. That might be fun in a pool hall with some tequila, but not while planning your big day.

Post # 16
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402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@baroness:  I’m jumping on the “guest only” bandwagon.  You say she is loyal, but those remarks on Facebook were ANYTHING but loyal.  I know that you love her–I can relate, my MOH and BFF is somewhat hot-tempered and opinionated, too.  But she is 100%, always and forever loyal.  My MOH would NEVER do what your friend did.  We’ve been friends for 15 years, sometimes we fight or disagree and we’ve had our ups and downs.  But never has she sold me out like that.  What your friend did was really, REALLY hurtful, and she betrayed you.  It takes time to heal wounds like that– I’m not saying don’t give her another chance, and I’m not saying don’t invite her to the wedding, but asking her back as a bridesmaid just seems like bad news bears to me.

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