- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Hi Bees! So, a while back, I posted that I got in a nasty and vicious fight with my MOH/BFF, that not only left her out of the wedding, but we didn’t speak for almost 9 months…until last night. She emailed her apology, accepted her actions as hurtful, and said she didn’t expect anything from me, but wanted me to know how sorry she was, she missed me, loves my kids, etc. I was completely shocked, but as I am not one to hold and grudge, and all I ever wanted was for her to recognize the pain she caused me, which she did. I miss her as well, and talking to her again was if no time had passed.
Now here’s the problem: it’s not even an issue if my adorable angel of a daughter will be stepping down as my MOH because obviously, my little gal, at 10yrs old, knows what it’s like to be loyal and loving and has been a fantastic MOH, so that stays. I think everyone on Earth can agree with that. But what to do about asking her to be involved again, along with her kids, who are my godchildren, all three of them. My fiance hasn’t made it known, but I know he is fine to have her invited, but absolutely doesn’t trust her and sure as hell wouldn’t want her anywhere near our wedding planning activities/parties/showers, etc. In her gigantic rant against what a Bridezilla I am, she “mentioned” how I initially didn’t love my fiance, that I was more interested in a wedding, and the idea of being in love. Words like that can’t ever be taken back, and my FI is the most forgiving and loving person, but he’s not forgetting that any time soon. Especially since she tagged him in the post, so every one of his friends on Facebook could see, including his mother, brothers, and groomsmen (don’t you just love Facebook vengeance??)
So bees, any advice and/or thoughts? Should I be the bigger person and invite her back in? Or don’t bring up the past fight, move on, continue to work on friendship and invite her as a guest? Sorry, long post again! Thanks!