Post # 1
So, my best friend of 12 years is one of my bridesmaids. We have been through everything together. Lately, as we are getting closer to the wedding, I feel like she is pulling away. Recently, she emailed me to say that she wouldnt be coming to my bachelorette party. No reasons, no explanation, just that she knew I would be upset and that hopefully we could talk about it on Sunday before my bridal shower. WTF?!?! I’m so upset I can’t even think straight! I emailed her back saying taht yes, I was upset, but that I did not want to talk about right before my bridal shower with 50 guests…. like the the hell? She didnt even call me about it or anything, she sent me a FREAKING EMAIL!?!?! any advice?
Post # 3
dont let her stress u out. weddings are stressful enough. tell her that u really need her help and support right now and talk things thru with her, if u have been friends for 12 years then you should be able to find way to get through to her. if after that she is still pulling away just ignore her and carry on with your plans. If she doenst want to make the effort to be at ur bach party then u shouldnt even want her there, cos then what type of friend is she?
Post # 4
Oh, wow. Every time I read a thread like this, I think “I’m so glad we didn’t do a bridal party!”. All I can say is, she probably doesn’t realize that your bachelorette means as much to you as it does. To her, it’s just a big night out, so she may not realize that she is hurting your feelings. I’d try and let it go – like the PP said, there are so many things to worry about with weddings, you’ve got to pick your battle or you’ll go insane!
Post # 5
Girl just ignore her…She knows this is important. Dont even give her the time of day. Carry on with your plans and ignore her..
Post # 6
I am having issues with my best friend who is MOH so I completely sympathize. I think your BM is going through some issues right now and that’s why she’s pulling away and not showing up to your bachelorette party. Although I know it’s really upsetting right now, focus on yourself and have fun at your bridal shower and bachelorette party. Then maybe try to talk to her and figure out what the deal is. Just remember that you have lots of other friends who are there to support you.
Post # 8
A friend of 12 years should be open and honest with you! At this time I would give her benefit of the doubt. and I agree with other posts, you have too much on your plate right now to stress over her!
Post # 9
Thanks for the advice ladies. I finally got a chance to chat with her last week, and got a bit more insight. I just wish she had talked to me about it all BEFORE sending the email, but things are good now!