(Closed) Bridesmaid Drama…More of a Vent (Long…sorry)

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

ouch sorry 🙁  That’s not cool.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@lindyjo:

*HUGS* I’m sorry you are dealing with this. Your remind her that it is your wedding and that it would not be fair to allow people she really does know to come while there are those who did who can’t. I would also tell her that you are at capacity and it was not nice to just invite people without consulting you.

Personally, if she had pulled other stunts I would have gotten rid of her a long time ago.

Just to be safe, have a seating chart and hostess at the door to stop those who did not RSVP or are not invited to not come in

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Wow, maybe you should secrectly link her to here so she could see what it means to be a good BM, like not inviting your parents to someone else’s wedding?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@lindyjo: black shoes are the easiest thing to find.  Heck, even Wal-Mart has a huge selection of black dress shoes!!!!  It’s the main staple in a wardrobe, I think! LOL!

Soooo sorry you’ve gotta deal with this.  

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow!! She sounds like a real pain in the ass!! Who just invites people to someone else’s wedding.  Can’t her parents watch the kids at her place while they are at your wedding?? Weird.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I’m surprised you thought she meant her parents would only be at the ceremony. LOL When I was reading that, i thought she was going to invite her parents to the reception. Anyway, she seems like a pain. Its your wedding and you need to tell her that unless she’s chipping in to pay for the reception, then she needs to back off.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Don’t let this person ruin things for you.  Stand your ground!

It just seems like she wants things to revolve around her and someone should remind her that it’s not the way things should be.  I agree with the other comments, she has no right to invite people to your wedding.  It seems downright disrespectful.  If she just has 1 child, I don’t see the need for anyone to look after him.  They could just graciously excuse themselves early if they really need him to be in bed by a certain time.

Hope things get better, this is not something you should be dealing with!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Im sorry your going throught this!! but it was better to be honest with her.. this too shall pass.. dont let this ruin things for you!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was also surprised to read that you thought her parents were only coming to the ceremony and not the reception.  I don’t think she should have invited them to your wedding in the first place, but if you both had discussed it and you said it was ok, I can see why she assumed you meant you were inviting them to the whole “wedding,” that is, both ceremony and reception.  I’ve never heard of people being invited to just one or the other, though it may be a regional thing.

We invited the parents of our MOH, best man, and another groomsman who is one of FI and my best friends, to the wedding.  Nobody in our wedding party asked us to invite their parents, they’re just our best friends and we have good relationships with their parents.  But if this woman, her husband, AND her child are all in your wedding, maybe she just thought her family was close enough with you that you wouldn’t be that offended for her to invite her parents.

However, she has no right to complain about shoes–especially black ones!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Bridesmaid drama is the worst, im sorry :-/ What a selfish girl

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