Post # 1
Hi, I’m not actually getting married (yet!), but I am a bridesmaid at a friend’s wedding in April.
The Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses she picked have a diamond-shaped opening in the back.
I’m a “full” D cup, and I forget why now, but I thought I would be able to wear a strapless bra, no problem. But the open back of the dress shows through the bra back. Not a very good look. So that’s out. A seamstress told me that sewing in bra cups wouldn’t work; the only thing she could do would be to cut up a bra and tack it in. She suggested looking for a specialty bra. I don’t know where to begin with that, and I’d prefer not to spend $100.
I don’t know the other bridesmaids at all, and I don’t know what they are doing. Hopefully I’m not the first to encounter an issue like this!
Post # 3
As a large busted woman myself I would just like to share with you how screewed you are 😀
Sorry, to make light of your situation, but thats such a tough one.
Depending on how much support you need you could consider a few things.
1) using those sticky cups in a C (because thats as big as they go) and preying for the best
2) getting a low back long line bra (although I don’t think they will be LOW enough)
Thats the best I have. GOod luck.
I’ve often wondered what I would do if a friend picked something like this.
Post # 4
maidenform backless bra
you can even buy straps to attach to any bra you own and attach it like this…
Post # 5
That is an unfortunate choice for the “girls” It is really meant only for an A or B cup.
There have been several previous posts here on wedding bee. Use the search feature on the upper right and search for “backless bra”.
Post # 6
The backless bra will do you no good. It is really intended for small busted women. Being a D cup myself, I hate to say it but you need to talk to your bride and explain that you simply can’t wear the dress, atleast not without your bra showing. Sorry.
Post # 7
I’d go for the long line, low back route- I know they are incredibly difficult to find in stores these days, but try searching online and make sure you order from somewhere that allows returns!
This might gross you out, but maybe ask around to any friends your size and ask to borrow? I have a bra like this from my mom, that was kinda the big deal in the 80s, if that may be an option for you.
I think the second best option would be to tack a cheapo bra inside.
Post # 8
Oh, that would be really difficult if you are busty, which I am. In my case, I’d also be concerned about back fat.
Post # 9
Could you convince the bride to let you wear a bolero or jacket so that you could wear a bra?? otherwise I would call the company to see if you could get some extra matching fabric and have a seamstress fill in the back for you – cheating ,but still it’s unfair to make you uncomfortable just for a wedding.
Post # 10
2 ideas from a Dirty Delete sister:
1. low back bra, the kind that goes under your boobs and down by your waist to buckle really low in the back and the straps are way off the sides of the back. I used to have one–don’t know where it went. It was great.
2. get a flesh colored tank top to go underneath it. They have some really really “naked” looking ones out there. Then you can wear a *real* bra, and have a nice, solid color, skin-like, open diamond in the back.
Post # 11
Also, have you considered asking the company the dresses are made by if they happen to sell/have suggestions for bustier girls wearing that dress? I’m so sorry this is such a pain for you! 🙁
Post # 12
option 3. duct tape.
(joking. but it *does* work. highly NOT recommended)
Post # 13
Sorry to say this but i think the bride is a bit inconsiderate to choose a dress like this.. because honestly all the good bras or other options will cost you much more money than you probably want to spend. She really needs to rethink this dress. But if her wedding is in April surely its getting abit late to figure this out?
Post # 14
I am far from a D (you lucky bees, you!) but I like the suggestion of one PP about seeing if you can wear a nude colored tank with a nude colored bra (that’s rather seamless so you can’t see the ‘bump’ from the hooks).
The other thing that comes to mind is the pageant trick of taping your boobs. Not sexy, not glamorous, but it gets the job done and keeps the girls up. I know a lot of people say duct tape (ouchies!) but medical tape should do the same if applied to a clean, dry chest. Good luck!
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Post # 16
Don’t use tape, except as a very, very last resort. Been there, done that.
Would something like this work?