Bridesmaid Dress Cost Guilt

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I think if they chose the dresses themselves (with just length and color as a guideline), you should just let them pay for the ones they like.  They haven’t been forced by you or the other bridesmaids into picking a certain dress.

I say don’t worry about it!  If you still feel bad, get them really awesome bridesmaid gifts 🙂

Post # 4
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Maybe offer to pay for hair, makeup or nails to ease some of their costs. Just remember each bridesmaid selected the more expensive dress and were not forced to buy the dress. Let them enjoy their dress and I am sure you have more stuff to worry/stress about this close the wedding. 

Post # 5
3889 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If they picked these, I wouldn’t feel too terrible about the cost, but I would make sure they do not have to come out of pocket for any other wedding-related costs: if you want them to buy new shoes or get hair/makeup professionally done, you should cover it.

Post # 6
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If they picked a more expensive dress then that is on them, and they should have to pay the difference then. You gave suggestions for cheaper dresses. It is very thoughtful of you to care so much, but you didn’t force them to go with a more expensive dress.

Post # 7
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@snd485:  if they are ok with it, then it’s fine. 

Post # 8
4601 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I imagined that both of my girls would have picked dresses under $100 because I know they probably won’t wear them again. Surprisingly, they sent me links of dresses they liked that were in the $130-$150 range. If it’s what they picked, then no need to feel bad about it. I had already planned on covering costs or hair/nails/makeup if they wanted it done, so perhaps that’s something you can cover for them?

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