Post # 1
I wanted to give my bridesmaids some flexibility in what they wear. I don’t really care what dresses they get as long as they’re the same color and length. I found a few retailers that have a good selection of bridesmaid dresses under $150 and I sent them the links to those stores. They ended up choosing different dresses in the same color from the same store but the dresses cost $175-225!!
I feel really bad. I didn’t want them to spend that much on their dresses, especially on ones that I don’t know if they’ll ever wear again. I went to Macy’s with my local bridemaids over the weekend to look at other options but they love the expensive dresses more. I will say, the expensive dresses look amazing on them but I don’t want them to spend that much and I don’t have enough money left in our budget to pay for the dresses for them.
I would shop around more but I didn’t realize it takes 10 weeks for bridesmaid dresses to come in! We’re under the gun timewise to get their dresses before my Nov wedding and still have time to get alterations.
Anyone else have this issue??!?!
Post # 3
I think if they chose the dresses themselves (with just length and color as a guideline), you should just let them pay for the ones they like. They haven’t been forced by you or the other bridesmaids into picking a certain dress.
I say don’t worry about it! If you still feel bad, get them really awesome bridesmaid gifts 🙂
Post # 4
Maybe offer to pay for hair, makeup or nails to ease some of their costs. Just remember each bridesmaid selected the more expensive dress and were not forced to buy the dress. Let them enjoy their dress and I am sure you have more stuff to worry/stress about this close the wedding.
Post # 5
If they picked these, I wouldn’t feel too terrible about the cost, but I would make sure they do not have to come out of pocket for any other wedding-related costs: if you want them to buy new shoes or get hair/makeup professionally done, you should cover it.
Post # 6
If they picked a more expensive dress then that is on them, and they should have to pay the difference then. You gave suggestions for cheaper dresses. It is very thoughtful of you to care so much, but you didn’t force them to go with a more expensive dress.
Post # 7
@snd485: if they are ok with it, then it’s fine.
Post # 8
I imagined that both of my girls would have picked dresses under $100 because I know they probably won’t wear them again. Surprisingly, they sent me links of dresses they liked that were in the $130-$150 range. If it’s what they picked, then no need to feel bad about it. I had already planned on covering costs or hair/nails/makeup if they wanted it done, so perhaps that’s something you can cover for them?