Post # 1
I told my BM’s that TOGETHER (I only have 3, 2 sisters and 1 best friend) they can choose their dress. I want them to be able to get something they will wear again. There is a difference in size though, one is a size 0, one a size 7, and my bestie is a size 22.I want them to have the exact same dress but i told the girls I understand if they want to get different fits (halter, strapless, etc.) since what will look good on the size 0 may not look good on the size 22. All was well. I told the girls I want the dresses to be knee length. My sister is now telling me she wants a long dress. The othes girls dont and to be honest, neither do I. I told her we could compromise and the girls could get the dresses that go to the knee in the front and drape to the ground in the back. She said she wants a long dress and that it final or she won’t show up to my wedding at all. I dont want long dresses and I want them to match. Any advice?
Post # 3
Is there some reason she wants a long dress, like she hates her legs? Either way, it’s your wedding and she should wear the dress you pick out. I can’t believe she would have the nerve to threaten to not show up over that! I would just pick out a dress and she’ll have to deal with it.
Post # 4
Oo that’s a tough situation. Have you spoken with your sister about her reasons for being so adament about the length? I know sometimes there’s a modesty factor to consider, which could be why she’s so adament (a friend of mine is a BM in another wedding, and all the BMs are wearing full length because of the bride’s own feelings of modesty). I’d say discuss with her the reasoning, and then maybe see if you can come to a compromise.
As a follow up thought, it may be worth keeping in mind finding a dress that’ll work on everyone may be easier said than done. My friend (same as mentioned above) actually managed to find a dress that’ll work on everyone (ranging from street size 0 to 20). I attached a photo because it’s cute. It’s #874 on the site if you want to check it out, Bill Levkoff. But it may be hard to find a dresss that will actually work on everyone, so it may be easier for you to try and find another compromise.
Good luck in whatever you do!
Post # 5
I think it was very reasonable of you to offer to let them pick anything out about the dress. You could have picked the style, the color, the length, the straps, the shoes. Your sister should consider herself among the lucky to have as much choice as she has. I think you should give it a little time and let her know that you feel strongly about the length. Offer to help her shop, to be her best critic and help her feel beautiful.
I think she will come around to help you love YOUR day.