Bridesmaid Dress Dilemma

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Which dress?
    The one you love : (5 votes)
    28 %
    The one they love : (7 votes)
    39 %
    Find a new dress : (6 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 2
    1154 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Honestly I think you should go with the one you love, it is your wedding.  They can pick what the bridesmaid dresses are for their own weddings.  

    Post # 3
    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June, 2014

    Sorry. Since they have to wear it, I say go with their pick.

    Post # 4
    97 posts
    Worker bee

    If you want them to wear the one you love you should have to pay for it. If they are paying they deserve the right to wear what they like and will wear again. 

    Post # 5
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Who is paying for the dresses – you or the bridesmaids? If you are paying, you definitely get final say. If you aren’t paying, I still think you can veto a dress if you really don’t think it works with your theme. So I voted for find a different dress 🙂

    Post # 6
    7025 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    rubytuesday256:  Your wedding, your choice. If their objections were stronger (e.g. because the dress you want is too uncomfortable or too revealing), then I would say choose something else. But if it’s simply that they prefer something else – you get the final say.

    If push comes to shove, you can cut out all argument by paying for the dresses yourself.

    Post # 7
    7284 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I would try and find a dress that encompasses both choices. there are plenty of 50’s style dresses in that flowy fabric. Something along the line of their fabric choice with the top of their dress choice and the bottom of your choice.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  j_jaye.
    Post # 8
    42101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m with the pp. Find a dress that works for your vision and their taste. Your satin dress makes even the model look pregnant. If it had a fuller skirt, not just a petticoat a-line, it would be more flattering.


    Post # 9
    2429 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Would it be possible to find a tea-length gown in chiffon, instead of satin? Your pick is tea length, but a nice compromise could be finding a tea length chiffon gown.<br /><br />So I had trouble finding tea length, but here are some chiffon styles that they might like better. All of these have straps, and seem to be more similar to your dress choice:<br /><br /><br />

    Post # 12
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Your Wedding=Your Choice.

    This is your day and your vision, if they don’t dislike the dress then I don’t see the problem with going with it.  If you choose to be a bridesmaid then you gotta get the dress.  I just forked out $160 for a dress that my sister picked out for her wedding.  It’s very pretty but definitely not my top pick because her other top choice I could have worn again, this one probably not. But I bought it because it is what she wants for her day and want nothing more than to support her and make her happy for this one day. 

    Post # 13
    2173 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    So this is tricky.  As long as they don’t hate the dress and it fits your budget, I would say go with your choice.

    But I have to warn you- that fabric from your pick is a b****.  Seriously.  I had a dress made in that same fabric from DB, and it stains from water, I kid you not.  Loved the dress, but I can’t wear it anywhere without it getting some mark.

    I also tried that dress on.  If it looks great on your girls, awesome.  I just know it didn’t look good on me or the other BMs at all.

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