Post # 1
You’re all so wonderful, I know you can help in this situation!
I’ve been having a heck of a time finding a dress that will work for my two bridesmaids. I’ve been looking everywhere, and the latest development is that each has found a dress that they truly LOVE at Ann Taylor, but one is blue, and one is green. In general, that’s not too big of a problem, because I want my colors to be blue and green, but I’m worried that with just two girls in two totally different dresses, it’s going to look weird. So, I’m looking for ways to unify the look. The dresses are elaborate enough, that I think sashes would be a disadvantage. I was thinking about getting them a shawl/wrap as a gift, so that’s a possibility. We’ll all have flower bouquets. Any other ideas??
I posted this dilemma on 43T, if you want to see pics: http://www.43things.com/entries/view/2505208
If in the end, we can’t justify both dresses, one will be getting the other’s dress. Or it’s completely back to the drawing board!
Post # 3
If you have a flower girl, she can help pull the look of the two dresses together. Which one is your Maid of honor? Have the flower girl match your MOH more, but add color or even fabric from your other bridesmaid. Also, what if the hemline to the longer one gets temporarily shortened (if it would look good on her)…that might help. They could get the same hair style, jewelry, shoes and bouquets.
Post # 4
I love both dresses, very pretty! Do you like both dresses the same and don’t care which one they ultimately pick? I’m not sure about them wearing different dresses because they are very different patterns and styles, so I can see your dilemma. In my humble opinion, just two girls in completely different dresses doesn’t look unified, kind of last minute.
Is one of them the MOH? If so maybe the MOH gets to pick? Or they play rock/paper/scissors to pick? Or have a game they have to play and winner gets to pick? Try to think of some fun way to make them decide which one; yes one will not be happy with the choice, but it is your wedding day and both dresses are so very pretty either one will be a beautiful BMaid dress.
Or if they insist they want the two dresses, maybe the one who wears the green has to get it hemmed to the same length as the blue (which is the photo looks shorter) and then a chocolate sash (or other color of choice) that both wear to bring it together. The same length & matching sash, same flowers, would make them look more unified.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2011 - in the woods
Hi limesnall! I think you can make it work! Just integrate similar amounts of blue and green into everything and people will think it’s all in the plan! Some groomsmen can wear blue ties, some green. And if you’re having ribbons on your programs, some can be blue and some can be green. If it’s relavant, your flowergirl can wear a blue and green sash…the colors you chose look absolutely beautiful together! Best wishes!
Post # 6
Thanks, Angel, Maegan, and Jess. For additional information, my sister is my Matron of Honor, and my best friend is my Maid of Honor. 🙂 They’re both honorific – couldn’t choose. But my sister will probably have the greatest leverage in the bunch. J’s got his best man and his sister as a groomslady (she has requested to wear black to complement the boys). We will have a flower girl, but no ring bearer, and I haven’t even begun to think about what to put her in, so your suggestions of making her the focal point of unification is a great idea! A cool green and blue tie would be neat for the guys!
Post # 7
the blue dress is the dress my bridesmaids are wearing! love it 🙂
Post # 8
Ooh! I really like those dresses — they are gorgeous! The recent Jcrew catalogue just came out with some nice stuff too!
Post # 9
Have them each wear the dress they like. Tie the colors into the church/ceremony site as an alter cover or table cloth or something. I love them both. Need to check out ann taylor now. thanks
Post # 10
I think maybe doing contrasting flower bouquets for each BM. Like the one in the green can have a bouquet of light blue hydrangeas and vice versa. Just an idea!
Post # 11
Something else to consider…in the black & white photos it’ll be impossible to tell whether or not the girls were in the same color. I know this doesn’t solve your dilemma exactly but in the end, if you black & white with your photos, no one will even notice.
Personally I don’t think the color difference would matter and you could have blue & green ties for the boys and maybe even a blue & green sash for your FI’s sister. Good luck!
Post # 12
I have the same wedding colours as you 🙂
If you want at least a somewhat unified look, I think that you either need to go with a dress in the same colour & fabric but different styles, or the same exact style but different colours. Two completely different dresses in different colours, even if they are both your wedding colours, does not look unified especially since one is patterned and one is solid with a sash. But if a unified look is not important to you, then just let your special girls choose the dress they want. (Do NOT feel guilty if a unified look is important to you though. As a bridesmaid, it’s generally agreed upon that you don’t necessarily get to pick your own dress.)
Post # 13
Well, the end result of this dilemma is that my sister kept the blue Ann Taylor dress and my best friend found a dress style at Siri that she loved. My original idea was to find a color swatch in blue at Siri that would be a close complement to the "Pacific Blue." But their blues clashed more than they helped. In the end, we found "Smoked Celadon" (GREEN!) that looks beautiful with the blue. What makes it smoked is that it is woven with blue AND green thread, so there is a blue undertone – which works completely well with the Pacific Blue! My sister took care of all of this from her end in Texas, and we’re all really happy with the results. Now, I’m just waiting for an actual fabric swatch, because I personally have never seen the color in person. [A leap of faith at its best!]
Thanks for your suggestions! We ordered sashes in both colors that we’ll wrap around the flower girl. I’m loving the j.Crew Theodora dress right now!
Post # 14
the green tulips are my BM dresses! and the green chloe is my MOH. My colours are also green and blue (and copper) and I’m trying them together with sashes ( which I know yousaid you didnt want) but if you have a FGirl she could tie them together. the Groomsmen could also tie this look together or even the pew decorations. For example, I have raw silks in different shades of blues, greens, and coppers to make mine. I think color differences in BM are great- my favourite pic is of 5 BM each wearing a different shade of pinky coralish colours (pastels not super brights). it was gorgeous!