Post # 1
I have an issue. I bought my bridesmaids dresses on sale in a variety of sizes in hope of them fitting my 7 bridesmaids (Cost me $250AU). I only bought one size 14 thinking my size 12 will fit my sister (MOH) so that the 14 will fit my cousin overseas. My sister initially fit into the 12 one month ago now she just fits into the 14. I know that my idea of buying the dresses guessing the sizes was a big risk so I have a couple of options:
1) tell my Maid/Matron of Honor she needs to stop putting on weight (I’m now worried the 14 won’t fit her soon)
2) put my Maid/Matron of Honor into a different dress to the bridesmaids
3) buy custom made dresses for all of the bridesmaids, sell my dresses on eBay, start over
Post # 3
Is she pregnant? Gaining 2 dresse sizes in one month is a bit extreme I think.
Post # 4
Well…buying dresses on the fly without REALLY knowing if they would fit in the first place is very risky…and this may be the first of many fit issues to come. I would advise against telling someone to “stop putting on weight.” Sometimes as women a little bit of water weight or swelling will put us over the edge of our actual size, so that could create a lot of hurt feelings and make others feel uncomfortable knowing that you are scrutinizing their bodies from now until the wedding to make sure they don’t put on a pound or two. Don’t be that person. How do the other dresses fit the other ladies? If you are having problems all around, just trash this idea and start anew. If it’s JUST the Maid/Matron of Honor dress, go shopping with her to find one that fits. Whatever you choose, just do not go route #1.
Post # 5
Ummmm you cant really control your MOH’s weight. Maybe she is stressed, pregnant or having a health problem. Either way it is none of your business. Why did you purchase the dresses so far in advance without knowing if they would fit or not? Thats your mistake and not your MOH’s responsibility
Post # 6
Thanks for the opinions and advice. I bought the dresses because they were gorgeous and at a great price. I kept each bm’s figures in mind and their measurements when I bought them but I really didn’t anticipate my Maid/Matron of Honor needing to be 2 dress sizes bigger than her normal. I think I may just need to put her in another dress.
Post # 7
There is no way you tell her to stop gaining weight. What an incredibly insensitive thing to think about doing. I am sure she feels much worse than you do about her weight gain.
Post # 8
@tadblingobsessed: Do not ask your sister to stop putting on weight, you can’t be certain of why she is putting on weight and she may not be able to help it. Even if she’s over eating it could be due to an underlying meduical factor.
I’d say that you took a huge risk ordering dresses without knowing anyone’s sizes. You need to make sure all the other girls fit into those dresses, if not sell them all and find new ones. If all the other girls fit them, then just find a new one for your sister.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Yikes. Can you tell her you can only afford one dress per person and if she grows out of it she’ll have to pay for it?
Post # 10
Put Maid/Matron of Honor in a different dress but only if you’re 100% sure the dresses fit the other girls so you’re not in the same situation down the road. If not then get different ones.
Post # 11
@lealorali: Ouch. that sounds quite mean.