- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
This is long and confusing. Be warned.
I have 5 bridesmaids (well, 4 BMs and a MOH).
One is tall and slender with a somewhat boyish build. Two are medium weight and height and curvy, one is short and on the heavier side, and one is tall with humongous boobs and is full-on plus-sized.
I knew from the beginning there was pretty much no chance of finding one dress to look good on all of them.I love them all and am trying to be sensitive to the fact that they will probably feel beautiful in very different things.
After looking around, I had the idea of getting replicas of vintage dresses made. I picked out one with each girl’s body type in mind and felt very clever.
Well, I posted them to the bridesmaids group. And only one liked the dress I had picked out for her. On top of that, three girls (the tall, slender one I had originally had in mind for the dress, one of the medium-sized girls, and the heavier short girl) ALL like the same dress.
I thought about letting everyone just have this dress, because all three of the ones that wanted it would look ok in it, but it’s not at all what I think would be considered plus-sized friendly (not to mention the plus-sized girl didn’t really even like it), and I don’t think it’s fair to that bridesmaid to make her wear something super unflattering that she hates, just because the others wanted it.
If I put them all in a dress that will look good on the two larger girls, I don’t think it will look good on the slim girl with the boyish frame. I am a little afraid it will make her look like a little kid playing dressup and emphasize her straight up and downness.
I feel like I have gotten myself in a fine mess. I want everyone to get a dress they really like and feel pretty in. I tried to make this as democratic as possible and it’s kind of crashed and burned.
Does anyone have any advice? FWIW, I already checked David’s, Alfred Angelo and a half-dozen other standard bridesmaid dress retailers, and none have the shade of mint green I was looking for.
Maybe I shouldn’t have tried to be so egalitarian, but I am trying as hard as I can to not be a pain in the ass to my bridal party. 🙁