(Closed) Bridesmaid Dress Etiquette

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You paid for the dress, right? If you paid for it, you can do whatever you want to with it. Sell it, burn it, cut it up and use it to wash the car. If she paid for it, she can have it and store it till whenever she is going to get engaged again. Perhaps she will buy it from you so she can store it.

This has nothing to do with “tainted clothes” but rather, it’s BS for one person to tell another person what they can and can’t do with property they’ve bought and paid for.

Post # 4
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can understand her not wanting to do anything with HER dress, but this is the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress that you bought.  I don’t thin she has a right to tell you what to do with the dress.

Post # 5
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If she wants you to keep it but you can’t store it, store it at HER house.

Post # 6
46219 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s your dress to do with what you will.

If you don’t think you could sell it because of the style etc, or you choose to keep it because of your friendship and her expressed wish ,you can tell her that if she wants you to keep it, she is responsible for storing it.

Post # 7
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with @distracts! You can keep it at her house if its that big of a deal!


Personally, I wouldn’t want any of the same details as my called off wedding, especially years later when they might be out of style, so I doubt she’d even want to use this dress in her hypothetical future wedding! 


Post # 9
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Maybe she wants to use those dresses because she would feel bad making you buy a second dress?  I agree with PPs, give her the dress to store it until a wedding happens.  She may change her mind by then.

Post # 11
9405 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

If you had said she “asked”  I might have said your friend was trying to be  considerate. Even though you got stuck with an unused Bridesmaid or Best Man  dress,  she would not want to  ask you to buy another one in the future. However,   she is not asking, she is “demanding. ” My guess is that she knows that if  she gets married and the dresses were sold or given away,  she would  feel obligated to have to buy them herself next time.   

Personally,  I would hold on to the dress for a reasonable amount of time if asked to do so. As to whether the dress is “tainted, ”  not everyone makes the same emotional connections.  Your friend may associate the dress with her dream wedding, and not with the former Boyfriend or Best Friend at all. Someone else in her position wouldn’t even consider re-using the dresses.    



Post # 13
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MrsNewDay:  sell it IF you can get anything for it. If not donate it. 

Post # 14
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

For a friend I’d just shove it in the back of my closet, I’ll indulge crazy once in awhile for someone I like.

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