Post # 1
Ok, so i my hubby to be and i have been having a little argument regarding bridesmaid dresses and i am hoping some of you can help us settle it…. I have chosen diffent shades of blue for my maid of honor and other bridesmaid and he does not seem to think that this will look right. He believes that all the girls should be in the same color. I picked a light blue for my maid of honor and the other two girls i picked a royal blue. The theme of my wedding is peacock (the feathers i purchased have all sorts of shades of blue in them). Any advice would be appreciated!!
Post # 3
I think that would be quite pretty! Though I don’t think that bridesmaids should necessarily match if you don’t want them to. All my girls are wearing the same color but different dress. I don’t have a maid of honor, but if I did, I may have gone the same route you want to.
Post # 4
does he think it in his head or has he seen the dresses in photos or photos of wedding parties with different color blues? There’s a great photo of BMs in different shades of blue in the DB catalogue. Sometimes seeing it makes a huge difference. Is he a bit of a traditionalist? I took my FI shopping to show him long vs. short dresses. He thought it was an easy decision (choosing a dress) until he saw them on me and said "hmm, that would look good on Mary and Sue but not Lisa and Merrill"
The why he is adverse to the colors is a big factor especially since your theme is peacock. Birds of a feather are never exactly the same color 😉 It’s not a decision that can be won on logic though; someone will have to compromise. So maybe he compromises here (since its the BMs) and you compromise somwhere else?
Post # 5
I think that’s a really nice idea, espacially if there is some way to tie the looks together with the pecock feathers.
Post # 6
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Oh, I really like the idea of having the MOH in a slightly different color — as long as it complements the other dresses. Maybe your groom is upset because he wants to similarly set apart his best man? If you’d like to have your MOH in a different shade of blue, it might work to have the best man in the same shade vest/tie/bowtie/etc. Good luck!
Post # 7
Am I the only one who finds it interesting hat your FI care that much in the first place? I don’t know if it’s someting you find sweet, or rather annyoing.. "Why can’t he just let me do what I want, like other grooms???’
I think your idea will look fine. If you are trying to distinguish your MOH, and just don’t know how else, you could just give her an embellishment or different bouquet, etc.
I think pinwheelpoprocks was right. Would it help your FI, if you showed him pics? Try looking online to find pics similar to what your planning. He might change his mind.
Post # 8
Tell him to put his energy into something else. Why should he be so concerned about YOUR BMs? 🙂 Like another poster said, he could do the same with his Best man to set him apart from the groomsmen.
I say go for it, especially since I plan to do something similar. I’ve chosen a berry/wine, sugar plum, and ivory theme. So I’m thinking my 6 BMs will wear the sugar plum color and my MOH wear the berry/wine in the same style dress. And I thought to tie them all together I’d like to use an ivory sash or something like that. Also, my wedding dress will be ivory. And I was thinking the Best Man would wear the matching tie/vest to the MOH and the groomsmen would match the BMs.
Post # 9
I appreciate all the posts! I think i am going to show him a pic of them all together and maybe he will get a better idea of what i am talking about. He is a bit of a traditionalist….
Post # 10
I know with my fiance, sometimes I would describe things to him, or show him a mockup of something, and he just couldn’t visualize it the way that I did. I had to actually show him a picture of exactly what it would look like, or show him a final product, and then he would see that it looked good.
I think part of it is that my fiance has not once in a year of engagement so much as opened a bridal magazine, so he has no mental picture the way I do. In short, I’m just agreeing with the above posters who suggested showing him pictures. Maybe you could do a polyvore of the three dresses together?
Post # 11
Do you not already have dresses if you’re getting married in a month? Isn’t it kind of late in the game to be changing it?
Post # 12
I find that my husband is a very visual person – so he didn’t understand all the ideas I tried to describe to him while planning our wedding.
Maybe if you show your FI it would help him to get a visual of what you are picturing. I was thinking you could go to the davids bridal website and make one of those creepy mockup pictures with different color blue dresses, your dress, his tux and groomsmen’s tux & ties.