(Closed) Bridesmaid dress questions! I need help!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I gave my girls free run (they all ended up in the same dress after all but that is another story haha) I original said royal blue and long. The girls then decided they all had to choose the same material – so they looked the same colour in photos… After trying on dresses they realised there were more chiffon options they liked. So colour, length and material was set πŸ™‚ 

In the end do you mind if they look slightly different? If not just give a colour and tell them to go for it… Other option is to “pattern” the girls based on their choices – ie satin, chiffon, satin, chiffon etc or long, short, long πŸ™‚ it may work πŸ™‚

ETA my girls range from approx size 8 to approx size 22 and we found satin was less forgiving than a chiffon dress. The chiffon seemed to be more “friendly” as 2 of mine are mums and didn’t want tight or fitted over their tummy…

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh and their dresses don’t have to match yours – I have satin…

When I was bm ours were a flowy satiny material and the bride wore chiffon.

And when a friend got married recently she had taffeta BMs and satin for her dress… 

It depends on what you like… To be honest I preferred my girls had a say rather than just saying “wear this material” πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

The instructions I gave my ladies was dark purple, and not too slutty.  They were different fabrics, styles, lengths, and colours.  I think it looked fantastic.    They still looked uniform enough to know they were the bridesmaids, and different enough to let their personalities shine through.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@bummbledbee:  how many girls do you have? Could you choose a few dresses and tell them to choose one of them (or something similar but YOU have to ok it first, ie no feathers :))…

By providing some dresses to choose from you are effectively saying hey this is the look I want – but without saying here is a dress wear it… 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My dress is organza, and my girls will be in chiffon. Very similar. I don’t think it matters if they match you, but to me, I like that they match each other at least colorwise. Different colors may appear different on different fabric.

Chiffon masks imperfections well due to it’s flowy nature. That’s why I chose it for my girls, and for the softer colors. My MOH will be 8 mos pregnant, and 1 bm just had a baby.

Hope this helps.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

  1. The girls’ dresses do not have to be the same fabric as your dress.  My dress was lots of tulle, my girls wore chiffon.  Similar, but not the same. 
  2. I would say chiffon is the most flattering… it’s flowy – So it looks good on girls who are bigger/have areas they want to hide.  I’m a size 12 and really prefer chiffon.  I just feel like it’s the most universally flattering
  3. It depends on the look you’re going for.  If you want them to be more uniform, but it’s ok if they have different dresses, then give them some direction.  For example, tell them a color and a fabric – or a few fabric choices – and a length preference (if it’s more laid back, probably knee length instead of floor length)… Then let them pick – but tell them they still need to get their choices OKed by you before they purchase

I was in a wedding last year where we were wearing mix and match dresses – She gave us some fabric direction.  We weren’t all in the same fabric, but she didn’t want chiffon.  Colors tend to look different in chiffon compared to stiffer fabrics.  We all had to wear Malibu (David’s Bridal) except for the MOH – she wore black with a malibu sash.  Several of us were in cotton sateen and some were in charmeuse or satin. So, the fabrics looked similar but not identical.  Although the bride wanted all different dresses, two girls wore the same dress – they were both pregnant, and didn’t know what size they would be by the wedding.  There was one dress that was the most forgiving/had the most baby belly room so they both went with that. Here’s a pic:

Now that I look, I think there are 5 of us in cotton sateen (the 3 in the front and the 2 in the middle on the top).  The one on the top with the shrug might be in satin, but I’m pretty sure it’s also cotton sateen.  The one on top on the left is in charmeuse – a shinier fabric… and the one on top on the right is in satin in black πŸ™‚

So – this gives you an idea of what mismatched dresses with more specific direction can look like – we were told a length, a color, and she gave us a few fabric options – We were also told not to dressy hoochie/not to be showing too much skin πŸ™‚

I love the dress I ended up with… and I probably like it more than if the bride had picked dresses for us… I was disappointed that I couldn’t pick a chiffon dress… But it worked out and I’ve already worn the dress once since the wedding πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Here is a chiffon dress from Alfred Angelo – It’s what my girls wore πŸ™‚

I don’t know what colors you are interested in, but I tell you my colors in case they’re ones you want… So now you’ll know what those 3 AA colors look like in chiffon πŸ™‚

My 2 BMs are in Jade dresses with a Pistachio sash

My MOH is in an Eggplant dress with a Jade sash πŸ™‚

These dresses come strapless.  I ordered an extra yard of Jade and of Eggplant so that we could have straps added to the dress πŸ™‚

Photos courtesy of Nick Dantonio Photography, http://www.nickdantoniophotography.com

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@bummbledbee:  I think that would look great! For a cocktail style party, I think that would be great! The Eggplant color looks a bit dressier – which I really liked πŸ™‚ And definitely knee length for cocktail attire πŸ™‚ I’m glad I could help!

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