Post # 1
So, it’s settled. My groom will have a groomsmaid and this is actually what I wanted. His best friend is a female and this was the ONLY reason why she wasn’t involved in the wedding. I told him that it was foolish to leave her out if she’s the one who has always been there for you…blah blah blah…fast forward to now.
So I have 2 bridesmaids (including one Matron of Honor). And my groom will have his groomsmaid and a groomsman.
All of the dresses are similar to this basic style (modest sweetheart neckline and floor length)
Bari Jay 555
NOW! The question.
I’m settling on having my two bridesmaids in the color coral. The groomsman will wear a classic black tuxedo. Should I have the groomswoman in the same dress but in black or a different style?
I originally wanted my groom in a classic tuxedo with a white jacket but now I’m thinking all of that variation will be distracting.
Should I put him in a black tux as well?
I just need some opinions.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
If you could find her a tux style dress, I think that would be awesome
Post # 4
I think that keeping that style but in black would work great, especially if she will look good in that style. If all the groomsmen/groomsmaid wear black it should be fine for your fiance to wear the white jacket. It shouldn’t be distracting however if you feel better with him in a black jacket then do what you feel is going to be best.
Post # 7
We had a groomsmaid! We put her in a classy black dress similiar in style and the same fabric as the bridesmaid and MOH, with a corsage in the groom’s colors of orange gold, and she wore something in her hair to match. She looked great! Perhaps this will lend you some perspective and help you decide:
Post # 9
First off I think having her in black seems like it works really well for your set up! Or, if you want her to match the other ladies, I think that makes sense too. No biggie either way.
We are trying to decide if we are doing the same thing: having a groomsmaid, and if so, should she match the bridesmaids or sorta somehow coordinate with the other groomsmen. Anyways, this post is helping me think about my options! BUT I have a follow up question:
Does the groomsmaid get ready with the men, or the ladies? I feel weird because I’m sure my fiance’s friend will be wanting to curl her hair, put on makeup, etc., and I’m having my bridesmaids do that with me (and paying for their hair). Does she get ready with us or with the dudes? I’m struggling because I hate to say it but I do feel a little wierd/jealous/uncomfortable about her getting ready with my man, hanging out with him in his last hours before marriage, or whatever. I mean, she is married herself, it’s not like I’m THAT kind of jealous, it just seems weird to me. Maybe I’m more traditional… but I also am not that close with her and it could be weird to have her get ready with me??? What did all you ladies do/or what are you planning on doing who have groomsmaids?
Thanks a million!
Post # 10
@Cornflakegirl: This is great especially because you had a smallish wedding party as well. It really helps A LOT to have a visual. Thank you so much!
Post # 11
@boardersarita: My FI’s groomswoman is his very very best friend. This year, she will be married for 4 years! So I’m not at all jealous or anything like that. Actually, I’m a little jealous because she will be the only person aside from my dad who will see the both of us before the ceremony. haha
But I actually told her (to help her discuss it with her husband) that she will get dressed with us, and then go down to hang out with my FI and his brother (the only other groomsman) and get in some photos of her fixing his bow tie and putting on his jacket and stuff like that.
I’m just excited to have his best friend involved so the jealousy thing isn’t even an issue.
Post # 12
I think a black dress would look fantastic
Post # 13
ya i would put the groomsmaid in the same dress but in black and give her a wrist corsape or something. I’m a fan of a groom in all black.
Post # 14
@TaurianDoll: You’re welcome!
@boardersarita: Our groomsmaid and her boyfriend got ready at their hotel and arrived to the wedding together a little early so she could join the bridal party in time for the ceremony and all. I didn’t know her well enough to include her in getting ready among the bridesmaids. I would have certainly welcomed her, it just would have been a little awkward as I had our photographer/videographer present to capture me and my friends together. It was special, and she might have felt a little out of place, but we would have made the most of it to make her feel comfortable. If it came to it, I, too, wouldn’t have wanted her to get ready with the guys. It doesn’t sit right with me for the same reasons you stated.