Post # 1
This week my bridesmaids and I went to DB to pick out dresses for them . I am so upset because they all looked so beautiful in size 4 and 6’s and I know that my dress is a size 12.
I am so frustrated and insecure. My weight loss doesnt budge. I actually have been trying hard but every time I lose a few pounds, I for some reason stop everything and gain it back.
It is a mental/emotional barrier that i do not know how to get over so that I can be happy and healthy and accept myself losing the weight.
I dont know what I am looking for… just venting. I literally feel like I will look terrible in compaison to my beautiful thin girls 🙁
Post # 3
Oh hun, don’t think like that! You don’t need to be a size 4 to be beautiful!! You are the bride, and will be the most beautiful woman at your wedding, don’t fret!
Post # 4
@Seashells7: all of my bridesmaids are a size 4 and I’m a size 16. Don’t worry nobody will look better than you on your day.
Post # 5
@Seashells7: you are the bride! Everyone will be ooing and ahhing over how beautiful you look. And most importantly your FI will only care about you and how much he loves you. ive never paid much attention to the bridesmaids in a wedding. Keep your head up high where it belongs 🙂
Post # 6
Thank you all for your kind words. I hope that all of my insecurities will go away on that day.. until then I will work hard to be comfortable with my weight so that I feel my best.
Sometimes it is difficult when a situation like this happens to stay out of my own head and remember that realistically I will look great no matter what
Post # 7
@Seashells7: A bride is never comparable to her bridesmaids. Its like comparing apples and oranges! I always check out other women, I appreciate female beauty at the same time being heterosexual. I’ve seen so many photos on the Bee of brides with their bridesmaids and the thought never crossed my mind.
This is going to sound vain 🙁 I wanted to my bridesmaids to look as good as possible. This might be a subconcious thought of not wanting to be associated with unpretty things.
Post # 8
@Seashells7: Just wanted to clarify when I said the thought never crossed my mind I meant the following thoughts: “oh wow this fat bride has hot friends” or even the other way “hmmm she doesn’t have good looking bridesmaids” or “hhhmm I knew it, good looking women only make good looking friends!” – these just don’t cross people minds when it comes to weddings
Post # 9
@Seashells7: On your wedding day you are going to shine no matter what size your dress is. I don’t care if your BM’s were runway super models, you are going to be the most beautiful woman that day. Stop beating yourself up!
Post # 10
My ladies are a size 0 and a 4, and I’m a 14 (and I have the smallest boobs too). It sucks, but I’m sure you will look gorgeous in your dress and no one will be thinking about your size