Post # 1
I am not being picky with my BM dresses, and originally I had asked them to buy a dress of their choice in a dark pink hue. It didn’t matter to me if they had different necklines, different shades, whatever. I thought this would be easier for everyone and that way they can buy a dress that they liked and can wear again. 2 of my BM’s decided to go dress shopping together and came up with this Jim Hjelm dress.
My MOH then e-mailed the rest of the BM’s. I guess they would rather have a more unified look than buying different dresses. One of my BM’s who recently got married responded by saying, "Shouldn’t we as bridesmaids wear something more simple so that the bride stands out more?" Something like this.
I thought that was very thougtful of her, and I honestly didn’t think about that before. My question is for those of you who picked out your BM’s dresses, was this something you took into consideration?
Post # 3
honestly, i think the bride will stand out already. i personally wanted my bridesmaids to look really good in their dresses, so that they’ll feel confident in them and not be cranky at my wedding. so i just tried to find a design that best suited all of them. in fact, i’m patterning their dress after the jim helm ones.
that top dress looks much more flattering on any woman. and with either dress, you as the bride will still stand out.
Post # 4
I think the dress is lovely, but inappropriate. Anything with an overabundance of cleavage is too much for a bridesmaid gown. Even if the girls choose their dresses, your guests will probably assume you did and wonder why you picked something so overtly boobilicious. I chose my BM gowns based on what I thought would look elegant, reflect the feel I was trying to achieve and most of all, be flattering on my girls. I think worn to a party, this dress would be fine, but in a wedding it would come off a little trashy/slutty.
If you have to ask if it’s too sexy – I think you already know the answer.
Post # 5
Just remember that photos are often deceiving, and if you haven’t seen one of your bridesmaids in the actual dress, I wouldn’t discount it quite yet. I would bet that the model in the photo has the neckline much lower than it would be on any of your ‘maids. If that’s the case, and the dress is more discreet in person, I think it’s a lovely choice.
I have yet to choose my bridesmaid’s dresses, but from my own past experiences as a bridesmaid, it has been easiest when the bride just told us what to wear. My best friend was thoughtful and tried to please everyone and get everyone’s opinions for her wedding, but unfortunately it only caused conflict and drama. If she had just flat out told us what dress SHE liked best, we all would have just gotten that dress, no questions asked. If you are nervous about the dress that your maids have chosen, maybe you can tell them that you just found one that you really love, and you’d like them to get that one. It might make things easier on you in the long run
Post # 6
I have not seen the dress on my BM’s but they both said that they tried it on and felt that it was the most flattering of all the dresses they tried on that day. My friends do not normally wear revealing clothes, so I’m guessing that it isn’t so revealing that they feel uncomfortable in it. If you haven’t seen this Jim Hjelm model in other dresses, she looks sexy in every dress she wears. Personally I don’t have a problem with this dress. I love Jim Hjelm designs. All I want is for my BM’s to feel comfortable with what they are wearing, and to buy a dress that they can wear again. I think the bride will stand out no matter what.
Post # 7
no one will outshine the bride. so there is no need to worry. go with the dress that makes them happy, as long as you like it too! 🙂 maybe you can make a trip out there with them to view it in person, but i think the first dress is totally fine. 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2007 - Westbury Manor
I actually allowed my girls to pick the dress.. with my color of preference. luckily for me, no conflict at all.. we found the dress in one hour.. this is what they considered.. 1. get the color i wanted 2. simple so that they don’t outshine the bride. 3. something nice that all the girls would look good in.
It was sweet of them to consider #2 but I don’t think anyone can outshine the bride. However, if a girl happens to be big on top, wearing the top dress, I am sure that any cleavage will attract some attention. Your best bet is to have all the girls try it on and see how it really looks.
Post # 9
personally, i LOVE jim hjelm dresses! and also considered them for my BM, but i thought they were too expensive. but whatever the budget, these dresses can be worn again after your wedding, and this dress is gorgeous!
Post # 10
I’m looking to have my BMs in Jim Hjelm dresses as well. Mostly because the tea dresses do not look overly bridesmaid-ish, they can definitely re-use them and they have such great lines. As for the sexy part, I don’t think they look trashy and why wouldn’t you want you BMs to look great standing beside you? Personally I want everyone to know that I have beautiful BMs! BTW There is no chance of them stealing the spot light…unless you have them in Pamela Anderson attire, but that’s another story. I agree with others that you should go and see the dress before making a decision. Go with what makes you happy!
Post # 11
I think the top dress is gorgeous! I think it all depends on how the girls wear it. You already said your BMs don’t usually wear revealing clothing, so they will most likely try to stay modest in their gowns.
However, I just did a wedding where the bride, MOB, and all BM were boobing out everywhere. Good lord… but it was a fun wedding regardless. The bride even did a booby shake to her new husband right before their first dance to Sexy Back…
Anyways, if your girls all feel comfortable and beautiful in it, that’s all that matters.
Post # 12
the jim hjelm is actually my first choice right now in the bordeaux color. it didnt look sexy on at all and was very flattering!
Post # 13
Did anyone have their bridesmaids wear the JH5762 and want to share a photo?