Post # 1
So I have 4 bridesmaids. Two of them skinny as a tooth pick. One of them average size. I’m average. Then I have a bridesmaid that is really a great friend. My other three bridesmaids have been great friends but they live in different states. This one is in my town and we see eachother much more, and again she’s great.
Well she’s over weight. I told her I didn’t care, that she will look great no matter what but she’s really self conscious about it. She says she’s gonna try to lose weight, which trying to be healthy is great all around but I don’t expect nor would I prefer her to lose weight for the wedding. But I know since she’s already having confidence issues, and I myself feel a bit self conscious when around the bridesmaids, I don’t want her to feel bad.
So I’m looking for bridesmaids dresses but I have no idea what will look good on everyone, big small and in between. I want something she will feel great in as will the other girls. My color is like a forest green. Any ideas on style fabric or any help at all in finding a dress for them? Something that will look pretty on all the body sizes? I’d rather they match but more importantly I’d rather they feel comfortable so any ideas are welcome please
Post # 3
Hi Pink green and yellow,
Hope you’re well! I had a similar issue only with one of mine having tattoos she wanted to cover up, so I appreicate your dilema. A couple of questions first – do the girls all need to be wearing the same style of dress? For example, could the skinny ones wear strapless and the other two with straps? Or would it be easier for them to all find dresses in shades of green that they each loved and felt amazing in, hence reducing the confidence issue? If not, then I would suggest a dress with something over the shoulder or a sleeve would perhaps work better for your friend – perhaps have a think about what kind of evening style dresses she would usually wear and go off that? Regarding fabric, I realise its a challenge, something too loose will add size which isn’t there but at the same time you don’t want her feeling self conscious about any lumps or bumps (we all have them regardless of size! lol). So, personally I would suggest something tulle like. A softer fabric that wouldn’t be too shiny in pictures like satin might be great. Here is a picture from a local bridal shop I know (https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10150849681570375&set=t.100001690121694&type=3&theater)(hope the link works!). It was a long time before I realised the bridesmaid on the right was very pregnant! Hence I would suggest this kind of fabric.
Hope this has been helpful and good luck 🙂
Post # 4
@sarah7989: Thank you. I have considered letting them pick their own dresses but two of the four are a little less traditional than myself and my wedding will be so I’m kinda nervous about that. Not saying they dress skimpy but short short short shorts are regulars for these girls, one girl wears leopard print frequently in tube tops and such. I mean it’s stylish since that’s her style and all but… It’s not the style of my wedding. I’ll look into satin and all wedding dresses.
I think I’m going to have sleeves on my wedding dress, would it be alright if I had sleeves and some of the bm’s didn’t? And one sleeve or two would look better on the heavier girls? I just want to make sure we all look and feel comfortable. And that to me means the thinner ones as well should be nicely covered like the rest of us lol
I’m thinking of doing a tea length wedding dress, would it be alright for the bridesmaids to be in tea length as well or would that be too similar? I guess I should look into it more lol
Post # 5
Perhaps you could take them dress shopping with you, then they could pick out what they like but at the end of the day it would be you making the final decision, so you could still kurb the leopard print! lol Thats what I ended up doing 🙂 I definitely think sleeves and non sleeves can be mixed, im going strapless full length (see my other post about my dress – I’m having second thoughts haha) and my girls are in tealength fifties with wide straps. On the heavier girls I think the most important thing is that they feel comfortable. So it might be easier to ask them about what they would like in their dress and see what the response is. Definitely if you have something that can be added to in terms of straps and or sleeves (be it one or two) will give you plenty of flexibility whilst still maintaining a base look that they all conform to.
Regarding tealength – at the end of the day, no matter how similar or different your dress is from your girls, you will feel a million bucks and all eyes will be on you so get what you want in your dress first and foremost and worry about their dresses afterwards. aka, if you want a tealength dress then get it and worry about the others after 🙂 xx
Post # 6
All of my bridesmaids had different body shapes so I picked the designer, fabric and length and let them pick the style. Or you can pick five or six different dresses they can choose from. My bridesmaids were happy they were able to choose and I was glad because I didn’t have to worry about them feeling uncomfortable.
Post # 7
@pinkgreenandyellow: My plan (if I don’t change my mind when the time comes) is to give my bridesmaids a fabric choice (or choices, as some fabrics are really similiar when you look at them, and no one is going to be checking the bridesmaids’ tags to make sure their dresses are all the same fabric), a color choice, and a general guideline, ie, “Knee length.” And then give them the rule that I do have final say over the dress, but beyond that, let them pick what they want. I want my bridesmaids to be comfortable and happy, plus they’ll be able to choose something in their budget and get something they will wear again. Maybe you could do something like that? And then have them all coordinate on accessories, make up, and hair.
Post # 8
Check out Aria — ariadress.com — it’s where I got mine. They have a variety of styles, skirts, colors, and fabrics. They let your bridesmaids order sample dresses to try on in their own homes. I told my bridesmaids what color and fabric, and asked them to choose between a few styles. They all chose the same style but different skirts. It’s a great way to make sure everyone is comfortable and likes what they’re wearing. Good luck!