(Closed) Bridesmaid dress troubles – thinking about dropping out

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Here are a few options:

1) You can probably get away with wearing a bra with that dress with insanely thin straps.

2) There are also bras where the back hooks are all the way near the waist – they are made for backless dresses

http://www.millionlooks.com/images/v-shaped-back-bra.jpg

 

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To me it looks like the second set of triangles hits right were a bra would normally sit. Do you have a picture of you in the dress with a bra on???I also agree you could find a bra that would work.

A dress is no reason to dropout of a wedding people have been asked to wear much worse.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the people at the store will be able to find you a bra.  I don’t think this is any reason to drop out of a wedding.  I would be EXTREMELY hurt. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If she’s a “dear friend” I wouldn’t drop out over a dress because “it’s not ideal for my body type.” Something like that could hurt a friendship.

Victoria’s Secret has some bras that might work

http://www.victoriassecret.com/ss/Satellite?ProductID=1265784921305&c=Page&cid=1331606905773&pagename=vsdWrapper

http://www.victoriassecret.com/ss/Satellite?ProductID=1265771524499&c=Page&cid=1331606784306&pagename=vsdWrapper&search=true

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Can you wear a bolero with the dress? That way the whole back would be covered

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Sew in cups. Backless bra. Duct tape/support tape. There are endless ideas. Dont bail on her, that would be sad.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@KT1987:  Well if you can’t find another solution, you can explain the situation to the bride and ask for permission. I bet she’d prefer a bolero to dropping out.

Why don’t you take the dress to Victoria’s Secret and try on some of their bras with it. There are a million different kind of bras out there, so if you are willing to get creative, I’m sure you will find something.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Speaking as a 38F, I get your concern and immediate reaction.  That being said, I have worn a dress like this. Here’s what I did:

Put on your normal most supportive bra.  Have a friend fold the middle of the back stap over and put a few stitches through the bra to hold it folded in half.  Put dress on and make any adjustments.  I wouldn’t sew yourself into the dress unless you have someone with you that can get you out.  You’ll still be able to pee, etc…but you’ll be wearing a good bra.  

At the end of the night, either have someone else cut the stitches out so you can take the bra off or you might be able to wiggle it off over your head.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I’d try a backless bra with clear straps. Any Victorias secret or other store that offers “bra help” should be a good place to go. I’d bring the dress and ask an associate.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you get a nude colored tube top to wear under the dress?  That way both triangles are covered by the nude color and your bra could go underneath, and nobody would know.

ETA: a nude colored cami or something similar might work as well

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Take your dress and shop around!  Some more options:

Macys

 

 

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