- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
So…I had the most amazing weekend with my bridesmaids, trying on dresses, going out to dinner and generally catching up, and I come into work this morning to find an email from one of my bridesmaids (and best friend from college) saying she is really sorry but she is going through alot of personal stuff and cannot be a bridesmaid anymore.
I am heart broken. We both have insane work schedules and rarely see each other (although we email daily) so I was looking forward to spending more time together over all the wedding stuff. I am trying to be mature and I definitely understand my wedding is not the center of the universe, but I feel very hurt and rejected. I did realize that she didn’t seem like herself but I didn’t want to bring anything else up with her this past weekend in front of the larger group. I am concerned about her and sad and confused, and also, I fully realize this is not a nice thing to say, but I can’t help thinking that its partially because she really doesn’t like one of the other bridesmaids and having spent some time together again this weekend she was reminded of just how much she didn’t like her. She has been pretty enthusiastic about the wedding every time I talked to her prior to this weekend.
I don’t know – I just feel like a big ball of contradictory emotions right now. I am concerned for my friend, and upset and disappointed that she won’t be there and also kind of hurt that she doesn’t think enough of our friendship to be in the wedding party, especially since I haven’t asked the bridesmaids to do anything other than buy a dress (which I asked them all for input on and am trying to keep at less than $200; and I don’t think money is an issue for her anyway). In the interest of full disclosure, I know they are throwing me a shower, but I told them it was not necessary at all and that I would be happy to chip in for the cost).
Has anyone else had this happen to them? We are planning to meet up in a few days to talk but I am not really sure how its going to go.