- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I know some people are going to find this unacceptable, but this is my PSA on what can happen when for months and months a bride treats her bridal party like slaves, and disrespects them relentlessly.
Today I walked out on the wedding at 10:30am when the ceremony started at 1pm. I had absolutely HAD it with the bride and the maid of honor. It was my second fight with the bride, and I could not physically stomach being talked to so rudely and not saying anything. I was a bride just last year, and there is no amount of stress or “specialness” about the bridal experience that makes it okay for the bride to treat her bridal party like trash.
I got into a huge fight with the bride two night ago because while I was trying to help her she got basically told me I was a lazy no-good, and rolled her eyes and me and treated me like shit for the last time I could handle it. I basically told her that I was a replacement for one of the 3 bridesmaids that had already dropped out, and that if she looked in the mirror, maybe she would come to see that the common denominator in the situation was her, and that her behavior was the problem, not everybody else. I also told her that unless she apologized to me, I would not be coming on the wedding day.
She called me and we both apologized. I apologized for taking it to an unnecessary level and threating something so serious, and she apologized just because she knew it was what I wanted to hear (most disingenious thing I’d ever heard). So I came back the next day and helped her decorate the reception hall and we put it past us the best way we could.
Then, on the wedding day morning (today) she shows up to my house 15 minutes early and upsets my husband by being rude to him, and then gets mad at me for not answering my phone at 6am (apparently she wanted to let me know that we had a dress code for getting ready). She acted like I was late, even though she was early, and came to my house before 7am uninvited and woke up my husband, and then made him mad.
After hair and makeup we head to the church and I asked her if I could put on my dress at at 10:20 when the schedule says 10:30 is dressing time. She ignores me. twice. so I ask the other bridesmaids and they say it is fine. Then the bride yells at me and tells me to take it off so she can take a picture of them lined up. I said “Okay. I’m going to go in this room over here and take it off, hand it out the door, you can get a pic and then having someone hand it back in the room to me so I can put it back on.” She gets pisseddd (for honest to god no reason that I can tell) and tells me “The damn picture is only going to take one minute, go in a room and take the dress of, put your other clothes on, and when I’m done taking the picture you can change back out of your clothes. This day is not about you, it’s my day” (then she rolled her eyes at me for no reason). I said “Okay, which room do you want me in? So you want me to put my other clothes back on and then change back out of them and back into the dress after the picture is done being taken?” and she was like “I don’t care! Find a room, they are all around you!” (I asked because the room I went to go in the bridesmaid said no I couldn’t go in there for some unknown reason). Then the maid of honor said very snarky “Listen. I’m not trying to be rude, but” & then I cut her off and said “No, no, I don’t care what you are trying or not trying to do, you are both being very rude to me for absolutely no reason, and I don’t accept that sort of unprovoked rudeness.” Then the bride started yelling at me and telling me that it was her day, not mine, yada yada yada nonsense.
I said “Don’t fucking talk to me like that!” and she was like “Don’t talk like that in the house of the Lord! Watch your mouth!” and I said “How about your worry about your own mouth because I can say whatever the fuck I want with mine.” (this girl is a joke. she cusses all the time, but apparently God doesn’t hear it if you’re not in church? she’s so fucking dumb.)
And then I walked out and didn’t come back.
So that’s my PSA to brides who ask mere acquainences to be in their weddings and then treat them like trash and boss them around for months on end with no appreciation. I only wish I could get back this year of my life, and the $400 I spent on this shit show.