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bridesmaid etiquette for gifts

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries

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lagizzle 10/24/09 DFW

I am a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding - she got engaged in August and the wedding is January. I work part time in retail and I'm in college also. I am throwing a lingerie shower for her and someone else is throwing a bridal shower for her the day before my party. These showers in next weekend. Is it bad etiquette for me to not take a gift for the bridal shower? I am the only hostess for the lingerie shower, so I am footing the bill for that party (it's small, but still costs money) and I have also bought my BM dress, shoes, a gift for the lingerie shower and on top of that have to buy Christmas presents for family! What do you guys think? I don't want to seem rude, but I can't afford another nice gift and don't want to get something lousy...

3 years ago

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amandopolis

I think according to strict etiquette you are supposed to bring a gift, BUT, as a bride- I doubt I'd even notice.

3 years ago

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ES123 April 25, 2009 Laurel, MD

If this girl is your friend, I'm sure she'll understand your situation and not expect you to get two separate gifts. Also, Miss Powder Puff's idea of a new monogrammed stocking might be nice.

3 years ago

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Vic004 May 09 Sonoma/San Jose, ca

If I were you I would do what I could afford, if you can't afford it then I wouldn't buy anything and the bride should understand your circumstances after throwing you a lingerie shower.But also just check to see if there were some affordable items from her registry that you could buy for her shower, but I would keep it small. But saying that you have paid for a lot of things already and I would also not dip into the funds that I've been saving for Christmas.

3 years ago

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caliocteach 8/9/2008 California

How about a great card. At my bridal shower I got a gift from 2 of my 4 bridesmaids. I brought gifts to give each of my bridesmaids as hostesses -- it was an honor to have them in my wedding and I did not expect gifts from them (after buying bm dresses, shoes, etc...);however, I did feel it was important for ME to give THEM gifts for hosting.

3 years ago