Post # 1
This is somewhat of a rant, but would also like some advice. So I asked my bridesmaids 2 months ago to get these shoes from DSW. They were only $50, our dresses are short and I think it would like nice to have them all matching. So 3 of my 5 bridesmaids jumped right on it, so happy to do it. The other 2 haven’t, one texted me last night and said they are all sold out, so they are now just going to try to find somehting similar.
I don’t think the two like the shoes and just put it off so they didn’t have to get them. They are simple black peep toes, not sure what not to like.
I politely repsonded no I would like you to wait and hopefully they get more in as I want everyone to be in the same shoes.
What should I do? I’m very frustrated and upset as I really haven’t asked for much at all from my bridal party.
I’m trying to not let this bother me, but it hurts and I let little things bug me.
Post # 3
They might just be irresponsible, and had other things going on and completely forgot. Can they order online from DSW? Or direct from the manufacturer/another online shoe store? Even if they have to pay more… they should have bought them when you asked them to. My dresses ar efloor length so I just told them to wear black shoes that they already have, but I would expect them to get something if I asked… kind of comes with the BM thing, IMO. If they thought you were being unreasonable they should have said so immediately.
Post # 4
I can only speak for myself, but sometimes I have to wait a couple of paychecks because I have money tied up in going toward certain bills or other expenses, so I can’t always jump on buying something right away. What seems like a small amount to you might be a big expense to someone else, and being a BM can be pretty expensive when you add it all up!
Post # 5
@MadameTussaud: I agree. I usually know where all my money is going before I even get my pay check. So yeah, there are some things that have to wait.
Hopefully the shoes will be restocked and they can purcahsed in time though!
Post # 6
@DMG: They still have time to purchase shoes, maybe they haven’t gotten around to it yet or are saving the money. Can you find something similar enough for them since the originals are sold out?
It couldn’t hurt to ask, maybe you should give them a call to verify they’ll have the shoes in time for the wedding.
Post # 7
Totally agree with you there.
@ OP, have they responded back to you yet about waiting for the shoes to come in?
Post # 8
Don’t let it bug you, it’s really not that big of a deal. Maybe they couldn’t afford the shoes right then ($50 can be a lot for people) or just haven’t had time. If they come back in stock, then great. But if not, if they are simple, black peep toe pumps I don’t see what’s wrong with them finding something similar that they like and are comfortable in.
Also, if you are requiring specific shoes, you should be paying for them…
Post # 9
If you’re requiring specific shoes, you should pay. It’s not up to you to decide if a style is pretty when you’re spending someone else’s money.
Post # 10
@fishbone: If you think that way, should she buy the bridesmaids dresses as well? It just comes with the territory of being a bridesmaid. They should have bought the shoes.
Post # 11
Everything worked out, after discussing we found some online. Thanks everyone!!
Post # 12
@FoxyBride14: I agree. My girls bought their shoes and their dress. What’s the difference between them buying their dress that I want them to wear and shoes? Like you said – comes with being a BM